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writes:After a fairly bad relationship, and having been single for 8 months, I feel ready to begin thinking about dating again.Now, all my friends have babies/are married/settled in a relationship and as a result I don't go out clubbing/pubbing much, not that i would want to meet a guy that way anyway.But, how and where, do I meet guys? I'm not too keen on the idea of a dating site...
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (21 December 2008):
 Britt is right... if you meet someone online, please use caution, but... it's the entire world.
If you close the door on the internet, you are really circumscribed compared to the possibilities online... contrast the dating pool that is available to you locally with what's out there on the internet... it's a big world, and the possibilities that the ideal mate could live elsewhere are very, very likely. The perfect person for you is out there, but he could be anywhere, he may be British, but he could be Australian, or Japanese, or Finnish, or Californian... just be careful. :)
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (21 December 2008):
I've always been told that guys you meet in clubs are bad news. I'm sure there are exceptions, but it's a good rule of thumb.
Where CAN you meet decent guys?
The Internet
I wouldn't rule it out, but if you try it, use caution and keep your eyes open. The internet comprises the entire world, so it is a double-edged sword, opening the door to the good guys as well as the creeps.
Church
I'm not proselytizing but it's good to go to church and have a spiritual life, and if someone belongs to your denomination they will probably have similar values and thus more in common. I was raised Baptist, but I like the Catholic church and I'm thinking of becoming one. That's me, though... I see you live in Britain, so they have every denomination I imagine. :)
A class
Are you still in school, or have you graduated? Maybe you could take a continuing ed course, like painting or something?
A lot of people seem to meet this way.
These are only some ideas.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (21 December 2008):
 Wall Street?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): A hobby class,A local reading club are the best places to find nice guys.
The library is one of the best places to find a good guy."Reading maketh a man".
How about family parties?The friend of the friend of a brother's friend is definitely bound to be there.
Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): Night classes, dancing lessons, church.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): I was "keen on dating sites" either. But my kids convinced me to give it a try. My son's father met his new wife and my daughter met her husband on dating sites!
These days, I think everyone knows someone who has found true love through the internet. I recently read an article where the first recorded couple to meet via the internet were celebrating 20 years of marriage. This was long before dating sites existed! It is the best way to meet people in the 21st century!
It was a little wierd at first, and yes there were a lot of guys just looking for sex, but it was so easy to weed them out. Easier than at a bar or a club!
Well, after only a short time with this service, I met a guy who I could see was not like the others. We eventually talked on the phone for hours and hours, (our record was 6 hours one night) These conversations were valuable to our relationship, due to the fact that he lived 2700 miles away! If we had been from the same area we never would have gotten to know each other as well as we did, before jumping into bed! After 2 months he paid my way to fly up to see him...it was definitely a success!
In Sept he flew here to see me. We are very much in love and plan to be together as soon as we can work out the final plans. We still talk every night and email in between. This guy is an answer to my prayers. I love and trust him with every fiber of my being.
So don't discount the dating sites...miracles do happen!
I hear more happy ending internet stories every day!
I can't think of a better way to meet. And it's fun! Just the flirting helps build confidence and self esteem.
Try it and don't be afraid to meet people away from your local vicinity. You never know who's waiting for you half way around the world!
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): Ask your friends if they know any nice single men maybe?
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