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writes:I just broke up with my boyfriend of 20 months 3 days ago. His answer to the break up was becuase he didnt love me as a girlfriend anymore. I am still trying to get over this, even though its only been a very short time. But theres still an inch of hope in me that he will turn around and say he was wrong and I am more to him than that. He has been having a very hard time with college, money problems, work and family and our relationship did seem to be the last thing onhis mind most of the time.I know I need to get on with my life instead of wait around, becuase I still know my self that we will probably not get back together, even though Im hoping.So my question is to all the dumpers out there who thought the exact same thing....When you had a lot of things on your mind and you didnt think you had any time for your gf/bf, did you suddenly thnk that you didnt love them anymore? And did you ever turn around and think one day 'I made a mistake' ?Also can people please guide me into a direction of helping myself get over him if we never get back together Thanks. Meg xxx
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 If I ever became too busy for someone I would ask for space, or for time to get my work done. I might question my love for the person sometimes (whether I am busy or not,) because not all the time do I have that "lovey-dovey" feeling, but I wouldn't break up with someone just because I was busy.
If you tried to be there for him, go you, but I think that maybe he just got so stressed out he might've started dropping everything, first you, then his job, etc. etc. Idk if this is how it panned out, but obviously he felt like he had too much to deal with.
However, I still think that he could've talked to you, and expressed his concerns, maybe been like, "Baby if I can't afford you a valentine or birthday present this year, cos of my cash flow problem, will you be mad at me?" You know, tried to work things out with you, tried to clear things up with you to ease his mind, and then he wouldn't have dumped you.
Idk. Idk what's going on in his head, but
You have my condolensces.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): i am the poster to this question and i want to edit the last bit of the question.
i meant to say 'does the dumper turn around one day and think 'oh i made a mistake to dump my bf/gf, i want them back'
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