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writes:When you cannot find a partner, is their anything wrong with porn to take care of your needs?There is a difference between fear of rejection and abundance of rejection.I am not a picky individual.But I am just not attracted to larger women.By larger I mean visibly obese 200lbs or more.However for the past three years no matter whether its an onine dating site or just asking women out in general, the larger ones seem to be the only ones interested. The medium to slender women are jst not interested in me at all or as just friends.I am a medium built guy, around 6 foot 2, 180 lbs.Ambitious but for certain goals other than success in the socioeconomic world although I do hold my own there.I know personality is a strong part of a relationship but why date a woman I am not physically attracted to?Should I just give up and use porn on the occasions I need to get off and just accept the women friends for social activities?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJessicarabbit,
I did not mean it to be as harsh as it sounded
Thing is most displays of human affection I have observed in the relationship arena are usually based on lies and deceit.
The people show their best up front and then later something pops up and one or both find out the lies.
And it seems to be usually one sided with one person giving more than the other. Which usually makes them vulnerable and upset when the other person leaves or does something.
I NEVER will put myself in a place of vulnerability like that... not even with family.
My question was mainly should I give up because all the women who are attracted and let me know it are obese women....
Celiaf....
The nights I am not at work or working I go different places. Thing is I may dance with a woman I am attracted to but since I do not get a direct sign of attraction I figure they arent interested. But the larger women will just straight up give me their number or let me know directly...
Thanks for the advice though.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): That's weird. You don't sound like the type to be attracting um obese women. lol
Hmm... Maybe reconsider how you look for women? Go out to clubs, etc. Perhaps that would work a bit better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): So then you have answered your own question. You are on here asking for opinions, I gave you mine. I thought you had a problem, but if you are happy with your situation, then you are right, I have no place telling you what to do.I genuinely wish you good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo Jessica Rabbit.
1. Needs like what? I have food, water, shelter, transportation, a pretty good job and side business, great health, and a great group of associates with whom I enjoy social activities.
2. i did not say the women were woefully unappealing. i just said I was not physically attracted to overweight women. I did not make any negative comments about their other aspects. In fact most of the women I meet in general are pretty nice all around.
And the few things i am looking for I equally bring to the table. Bascially a long term lady lover who has a nice strong sex drive, is not looking for marriage or kids, is not looking for the fairytale romance stuation, prefers action to conversation, and who keeps fit.
3. Porn is not a be all end all. However its extremely practical for the purpose of arousing me. I use my imagination to draw, write poetry, and write my own small scale linux video games.
4. The only human affection I feel is a general compassion towards all people and the want for everyone to be happy.
But the thing I am not getting is sex.
5. i have thought about it. I have no idea why they are the only ones interested.
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To Martini.
Its understood that I am going to do what I want.
I was wondering what othes thought of the situation.
And if they could possibly offer more practical advice that I could take into deliberations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): Martini, I urge you to cut and paste that response to more of these questions on here - you're gospel needs to reach more ears :)
To the original poster, I have some questions for you:
Don't you have other needs besides ejaculation?
Why not consider what you bring to the table before you go picking and choosing from all these woefully unappealing women?
Why is porn the be-all and end-all? Doesn't your imagination work anymore?
I know porn is a tempting reality that most people give in to once in a while. But if you've gotten yourself into a place where you are seriously considering replacing human affection with PORN then you have bigger problems.
And about the "obese" girls: think about why you are only attracting them. Seriously, think about it.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): Bluntly put: do whatever you want.
Why the heck are you asking strangers as to what YOU want to do anyway? Is it wrong? Why is it wrong? If you ask a religious fundamentalist, they will tell you it is wrong. It is SIN. It is against God, etc, etc, etc. If you ask a heart broken wife, girlfriend or some other lover of sorts that had no solidity in their mentalities and/or something along those lines, then they will be completely against it. If you ask each individual of the odd 6.5 billion people on the planet, some will say it's wrong and others will say it's whatever and others will justify it and others will etc, etc, etc, etc...
Geebus man, think for yourself.
"I like the colour navy blue, but my friends like yellow and orange. Is it wrong to like navy blue? Should I just not choose navy blue and choose yellow or orange?"
[sigh]
Do whatever you want.
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