A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:So here is the short of it - woman who was married to a man with severe mental issues and addictions - we became friends - we had a brief affair after a year of being close and then it turned into a physical thing but I felt emotional connection and really felt like I loved her - I think she loved me too, but she had to take care of her husband (who was at the time in a downhill spiral of alcohol and prescription pill addiction also verbally and sometimes physically abusive - so he lands up committing suicide. Of course I am sick for her having to deal with this, but basically it freaked me out too even though I know he never knew anything about us (maybe it is the guilt of knowing I loved his wife). So I couldn't deal very well with helping her. Basically, I tried to stay away completely. But I can't because sometimes she still texts me like old times when we were just friends. I recently saw her and boom - there it is... the feeling. I think I still love her, and I think she has feelings for me too or she wouldn't text me or talk to me (she shouldn't because I ran away when she was going through the worst thing in her life). I can't stop thinking about her though. I just want to know if I should ever pursue it again or should I try to move on although I tried that and she still remains the only woman I think about. It has been almost a year since he died. When would be a good time if ever to try getting her into my life again - i miss her friendship and just her no matter how much i try not to she is always there.
View related questions:
affair, move on, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Sometimes no matter how hard we try there are those certain people who cannot be forgotten. You obviously loved her when you shouldn't have loved her. Then when she really needed you, you turned your back on her. But regardless, it seems she probably does have feelings for you as well. Have you ever talked about what happened? Maybe it is time you both sat down and openly talked about what happened. And maybe you could apologize for not being a friend when she needed one.
|
