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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we see eachother every few months.We are very much in love and he we have spoken about marriage and children etc..He has even asked me to marry him via text and email (to which i said Yes!)but he still hasnt proposed to me officially,with a ring etc.. When his friends and my family ask him about it he says.he will..1 day..Theres no excuse i can think of as to why he hasnt done so..i mean he is in his 30's,he has money and a good job...Anyone have any answers for me??
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Ha Ha I totally agree Dr Vendetta, I thought exactly the same thing.
Dear Poster, he should have arranged a candlelit dinner for two and went on bended knee, not propose via text or email. How unromantic!!!! I would have told him to get his ass over to me and propose properly, he sounds about as romantic as a wet lettuce.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (2 July 2008):
 "He has even asked me to marry him via text and email "
and they say remance is dead.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Why are you apart? 4 years..yikes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Four years! That is something to be proud of! I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for two and I don't expect him to arrange a wedding date until we are 'settled' in the same place (right now it's his work versus my university studies).
So it sounds like he will propose, but don't expect it until you're both in a position where you can no longer say you are in a 'long distance relationship'. You have to realize that if a person proposes marriage in the middle of a long distance relationship, the other half will get impatient waiting for a proper 'date' and 'place' to be arranged and it will start arguments! Anyway, an engagement is just a ring! If you have been together four years, I think he intends to marry you anyway!
Basically, what you should aim towards NOW instead of marriage is ENDING the 'long distance' part. Are you planning to live together for long periods anytime soon? Maybe think about arranging for you to move to him, or him to you, or somewhere inbetween! Then when you have somewhere where you are finally 'together', he will introduce the engagement.
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