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writes:What I want to say is more like adding to the question due to my recent experience. I felt that I rushed into a whirlwind relationship and after going out a few times we became intimate. After about a week he said that he only felt "connected" to me sexually. What does "connected" mean? Didn't he feel comfortable with me? Did we agree too much or not enough? Didn't he LIKE me? After that conversation he contacted me every day and he eventually said that we wanted a casual relationship with me without expectations. I told him definitely not at first but eventually agreed thinking he might start to like me more as time went on. This fizzled out and now he's seeing someone else. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): This is a silly and childish behavior. World is fast changing in social and cultural spheres. Sex has broken all taboos. It is money now that fuels and drives the sex engine. The new culture has taken its roots from economic doom and gloom. Cuba is not alone in becoming a sex paradise for tourists. There are no concepts of married fidelities. Hunger, unemployment and deprivation creates conditions in which meeting even daily expenses force women offering sex to tourists. Everyone around knows what sex is and how little it costs to offer. In affluent societies in the West girls and women have become conscious of protecting themselves from sudden disasters in the economy. Again, men are prone to have affairs and even sex outside marriage. In order to satisfy their urge for this they have taught their wife to have similar freedom with their friends. Gradually incest sex has creeped in families. Mothers encourage daughters to protect theselves from want by giving and taking sex from siblings. Husbands brothers swap spuses and group sex has opened new avenues for women to accept freedom in love. One knows how women get aroused to see group sex in each others' sights. This trend has takenoff and even preteen boys and girls engage in sucking cocks and licking pussies.
Old people who lose erection seduce preteen girls for oral sex by giving them gifts and money. Men take out cocks from girls' mouths when they begin to shoot their cum and discharge in towels. Old women also entice young boys andsucktheir cocks. Most masturbate with lesbian colleagues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): Well "connected" just means that his relationship with you was of a purely sexual nature. That there was nothing more to it. No emotions, love, caring. None of that. But the thing is that this is definitely a scenario that you could have completely avoided.
The thing is that when you sleep with a guy without first establishing a friendship and an emotional "connection" it most always turns into this type of situation where the man doesn't grow to love you and only sees you in a sexual nature. Men want to feel loved and wanted. So when you meet a guy you should try to be his friend and not look at him as a potential sexual suitor but look at him platonically as an interesting individual. Ask him questions. Let him take you out to dinner. Talk to him. Get to know him. Show him that you want to get to know him as a person, sex aside. Let him prove himself to you that he is worth your time and your sex. Start to get comfortable with him enough so that you know he is reliable and you know that he cares for you and really likes you. Cause any guy will sleep with you. But clearly you want more than that.
Sex will eventually come into play in a relationship. But for a guy to take you seriously he has to feel special and has to feel like you are interested in him and not just in getting laid. If you sleep with him so soon without even growing emotionally together, its a turn off. Guys like to fight for you and they like a woman who makes them prove their worth BEFORE jumping into bed with them. That was where you went wrong.
He is with another woman now and even if he weren't, he already has an opinion of you and I think its too late to change that. Once a guy sees you in that light of a sexual object its not going to change anytime soon. You have to move on and take this as a lesson and don't make the same mistake again. Your body is sacred and you should hold off with sex or even heavy petting or heavy kissing until you have established a good emotional nonsexual relationship with a guy. THEN you guys can have sex.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (15 January 2008):
 Sorry mate, but a lot of guys can easily have a relationship with a lady based purely on sex - they get a few weeks worth then get bored and move onto the next conquest. Does'nt really say much about this guy as a person does it? He sounds really shallow. Maybe you should take a look at what attracts you to this type of man?
There are plenty of blokes looking for commitment out there , at least this man didnt pretend he was willing to commit to a proper relationship , so I would put it down to bad experience and stay away from the players - they just don't settle down mate.
Good luck!
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