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writes:I am mates with a guy at college. We have been messing around (physically, but not having sex) after college alot the last few months. When we are at college, he is great with me and a good laugh. He takes me home after college a lot and we spend lunchtimes together nearly every day.I also have his hotmail addy and we chat on msn a lot. However, my problem is that he is always the one to start the msn conversation with me. He says a few things, I reply and then he replies back. Then it gets so far into the conversation and I dont get a reply at all. I know he is talking to other people on msn at the same time as talking to me but why does he do this?He also sends me emails on our college email system tellin me he's missing me and how long it is until we see each other again (but I do not take this seriously as we have both made it clear we would never be in a serious relationship together (for a start, after a bad breakup with another guy, I do not feel I'm ready for that anyway - especially not with this guy - but sometimes I do tell this guy I miss him as well even though I do not really mean it, I say it in a joking kind of way). He draws hearts with x's in the emails and puts litl roses. We also take the mick out of each other about the football teams we support. My main question is why is he all really nice by email all the time (when together and when not) and okay about doing things together during and after college, but on msn, it gets so far into the conversation, then it feels like he is ignoring me?Sometimes on msn, he will be all nice and we have a good laugh but there are some times when it is difficult to get two words out of him - he will say hi, then tell me he wont be in college the next day, then ignore me from then onwards. Why is he like this - especially when we have both said we do not want to be in a serious relationship together ?
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (8 January 2007):
 Well MSN is such a thing where this can happen. I myself am guilty of ignoring people sometimes. It's not because I diliberately say "I don't wanna talk to _____ today I've got better things to do." It's because I'm busy reading eamils or on some website or even talking to someone else. You shouldn't take it so seriously. But if it is bothering you that much then you should ask him why he's always too 'busy' to chat to you. Is his status always set to busy or away or is he clearly online and doesn't respond to you? I know you've probably tried this already but send him a nudge one day and ask him what's going on.
Maybe he is 'ignoring' you because he doesn't think you'll be that bothered seeing as you two aren't in a serious relationship and neither of you want to be. But if you two aren't together then how comes you're so bothered about him not talking to you all the time? Are you sure you don't want more from him? And are you sure he doesn't want more from you? Maybe you two should talk about it and clear a few things up so that you both know what's going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): I am sorry to say this if you mind but he is either watching porn which I do while takling on msn sometimes.. or he is talking to his friends..i wouldnt be worried hes talking to another girl..there u go
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