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writes:i have been with my girlfriend for auite a while now, and she has had sex before and i am a virgin but we both feel ready for sex, but when we are getting ready for sex i lose my erection almost immediately.
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reader, owehar  +, writes (31 July 2009):
I have faced such ED problems and I have used a lot of herbal medicines for sometime, but once my physician prescribed me Viagra, I just could not think of using something else. It has shown some very good results in my case and I am very much satisfied. I also got some good information about this pill from http://www.viagracare.com You need to consult a specialist because only they can let you know the exact reason behind your problem and can suggest you the most appropriate pill. For me Viagra has worked best, for you it can be something else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): I have exactly the same problem. It gets ok if I take a bit of Viagra before sex, then I can go on and on for hours. But no Viagra, no confidence and poof, the erection just goes off the moment we're proceeding towards intercourse or taking off clothes etc. Point here is, what is the solution apart from Viagra, a natural solution? Allopathy doesn't have an answer coz I've been to 2 Urologists and both of them were not able to solve the issue, one said it's just nerves and told me to relax and second asked me to take Viagra!! I've already been doing that. How about Homeopathy? Ayurveda? Other alternative medicine? If someone knows anything, please share with the forum
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (12 October 2007):
Just keep trying. Your problem may be failure to relax. Are you taking any medication (even decongestants can have an adverse effect). See a doctor if the problem persists.
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reader, Titania70 +, writes (12 October 2007):
A long time ago, when I was 22 and my boyfriend was 18, I was in the same situation. I'd had sex before and he was a virgin and we didnt manage to have sex for the first five months of our relationship because he was too nervous when we got to that point. You both need to relax and keep on hanging out together to get to know each other better. When you're mentally ready to have sex with her, it will happen, I assure you and it will be a great moment! I remember mine :) good luck!!
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (12 October 2007):
 Hi,
Dont panic this does happen to alot of men mine included, i find that if you relax completely you need to clear your mind and forget all the other times that it has gone wrong.
Start with touching your naked bodies together and gently kiss each others body, The first time that you try this don't follow up with sex even if its standing to attention! This does take time but you will find that soon it will no longer go down,
(i know that it is easier said than done but it does work, don't be too hard on yourself cause the more you focus on the problem the worse it will be) And remember just RELAX it will happen in the end!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): This is normal. It doesnt happen to all guys, but there are a number out there that have this problem. Its the bodies way of saying "overload". It happens because you have worked yourself up to much to have this one great experience that your system just doesnt know how to cope with it, so it "shuts down".
The best thing to do is try and relax more. I know this is easier said than done, but relaxing more will work. Perhaps you and your girlfriend should instead of diving in with both feet, try a little foreplay. In fact a lot of foreplay. This will normally get the bloods flowing through you quicker. It may not work the first time, but after a couple of tries, your body should be used to and so things should respond better.
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reader, miss e +, writes (12 October 2007):
I don't think you should worry at all i mean if you didn't have one at all then i would say go have it checked out by a doctor...but you can get an erection, so don't panic :-)
I think your loss of erection is caused by anxiety, nerves...and fear that you will not perform as well as you hope, but let me tell you expect to not be brilliant, afterall it is your first time i am sure your girlfriend will understand and it sounds as though she is willing to be patient which is definently a good sign :-)she probably was very nervous herself with her first time, don't be hard on yourself (no pun intended) also don't expect to have an orgasm it may not happen...just take it as it comes) make sure you both get plenty of foreplay and don't just dive straight into sex, other things can make you feel sexy and slowly get you into intercourse such as talking, touching , holding each other. If that doesn't work consider the possibility maybe yo aren't quite ready for a sexual relationship yet...good luck :-).
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