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writes:Does anyone think when two people break up and remain friends that theres an ulterior motive? I am sure that there are exceptions to the rule (where there is a genuine friendship) but generally do you think one person harbours feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): I can't speak for others but I'm friends with my ex and there are still some feelings...he's still attracted to and cares for me and I still think he's the only man in the world I can fully trust. We're both seeing people and yet....I think of him, he thinks of me. Sometimes, we go back to talking like we did when we were together. I was shocked last night when we talked about having a baby-like old times. So yes, sometimes it's never really over, it just stops until you start it again. And in that case, theres a danger in being friends.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 I think it's hard not too. But I also think that if it IS painful not being friends is better. And I do believe it is easier to get over a broken heart if you don't stay in contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): That's too vague to answer, yes it's possible to remain good friends. It depends on how they broke up, how they got over each other, etc etc
There could be other motives but it depends on the people and the situation.
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 I'm sure there are exceptions to every rule, but I believe that yes there are usually feelings harboured...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): I think that there are cases where some people can get along just fine as friends. With no ulterior motive. However I think those circumstances are rare, especially right after a break up. I am friends with a lot of my exes, however either they or myself chose not to have any friendship or contact because there could be underlying tension or jealousy there.
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