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writes: hi, I had a brief affair because of some problems in my marriage. The affair is now over. Instead of feeling better, I feel used by the other man who promised to be there for me no matter what.My husband does not know of the affair, but he really wants to make our marriage work. The thing is I don't feel comfortable when he makes love to me. I think of my fling, and I yearn for his touch (the other man) even though he used me.I love my husband so much, we have two beautiful kids. wWhat should I do? I really want to make my marriage work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): Hi!!!!!!
well, i can understand you and even your situation..because my xperience is the same as yours... believe me, if u have had an affair with someone else..it must have been a valid reason..
if you love your husband and you want to make your marriage work, then it's better never to reveal the bitter truth to your husband...Forget the past...it's only human who make mistake so better forget the past and live the present...
Never think even for one second in your life that you want to be honest with your husband by revealing the truth...because honesty sometimes destroy..
Try to forget the past if you want to save your marriage!!!
lots of blessings and courage to you!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): You love your husband? Yes you were used,by somebody who took advantage. Let your husband go.He will find a better woman in the long run.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (26 July 2005):
You had an affir and now YOU feel used??
I think it is your husband who should be feeling used.
You say you love your husband but i dont think you can if it is so easy for you to have an affair and you are unable to forget this other man.
You have to tell your husband how you feel about your relationship. Its not fair to string him along if you are not in love with him.
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reader, pops +, writes (24 July 2005):
After two children, one would think that you had reached the point where you were comfortable telling your husband what you want when it comes to sex. Talk to him. Tell him what he does that makes you uncomfortable. Without confessing your affair, tell him what you like( that the lover did to you)and show him, by taking your hands and moving his hands to make you feel special. Men( and women) are not mind-readers. Everyone is unique, and only you can teach your husband how to love you. That is your job. The other job you have is to pleasure him. That means you have to ask him what he likes, what he would like you to do( that you have not done), and ask him to show you how he likes it done. The reverse is true for him. Sex is about communication. Good Sex is the result of communiction and practice. Great sex is the product of those two characteristics and some luck. Go for it. pops
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