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30-35,
*eena Dondaneau
writes:Hi, I have been with this guy for almost 6 months. every since we met, we spend every second we can together, its at a point where i dont even stay at my place anymore, i pretty much live at his house, im even at his house when hes not there. we love each others company, we make each other laugh. everything is great.The reason why i am writting to you is because i am falling in love with him. and i want to know the best way to tell him this. Sometimes i think that i should wait for him to tell me this, but i dont know.We both had a terrible breakup with our ex's about a year ago, and i feel with us i want to be sure that this is the right time to say it. is 6 months to short? i donno?... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): A mostly quite place with prehaps a little noise in the background, music for instance to distract from an awkward silence in case it should arise..
Alone.. his house maybe.. close to the time that you are about to leave, so that in case he should need to, he can think it over without having you there in his face, awaiting his answer and if he needs not think it over and immediately accepts, you can leave happy, filled with anticipation for your next encoutner. And also so that should he deny you, you do not have to stay longer and linger is awkwardness or make a bad excuse to leave.
You should more imply than directly tell. Telling him he's really helped you to get over your past, and you're ready to move on with a new person and that you hope he is as well. He may say "no" or "yes" but either way, since you have not directly told him how you feel but only implied it, there can be no rejection and no loss of friendship because he can't officially say that you asked him out. If nothing else, you can pretend that the comment was not directed at him but if he feels the same way, he will know it was and will make his feelings clear to you in his own way..
I hope that made since. goodluck!
~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): A mostly quite place with prehaps a little noise in the background, music for instance to distract from an awkward silence in case it should arise..
Alone.. his house maybe.. close to the time that you are about to leave, so that in case he should need to, he can think it over without having you there in his face, awaiting his answer and if he needs not think it over and immediately accepts, you can leave happy, filled with anticipation for your next encoutner. And also so that should he deny you, you do not have to stay longer and linger is awkwardness or make a bad excuse to leave.
You should more imply than directly tell. Telling him he's really helped you to get over your past, and you're ready to move on with a new person and that you hope he is as well. He may say "no" or "yes" but either way, since you have not directly told him how you feel but only implied it, there can be no rejection and no loss of friendship because he can't officially say that you asked him out. If nothing else, you can pretend that the comment was not directed at him but if he feels the same way, he will know it was and will make his feelings clear to you in his own way..
I hope that made since. goodluck!
~Sy.
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