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writes:i have been dating my boyfriend for 2yrs and we are madly in love, we also know we are going to get married soon. we plan on having kids. but my problem is when is the right time to have kids?? while im in college or after? Reply to this Question
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reader, Arianna0825 +, writes (29 July 2007):
I am about to have a baby in 3 weeks, I am 18. If you have a good partner who is supportive and willing to help, you can go to college and raise a child at the same time. I plan on going to college in the winter but i have a strong support system with family and friends who are willing to take care of my baby while I am in class. There is really no right time to have a baby, but it is possible to go to college and raise a child at the same time. Don't let people tell you differently.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2007): There is no right time to have a baby. Many people have had children before education and returned later although found it harder and their are those who had children after studying but still felt as though they should have had children earlier. I think that the right tine to have a child is when you are mentally strong enough as an individual. If you feel as though you'll be able to bring up the child on your own if god forbid things did not turn out as planned. Think about yourself, as if anything were to happen the woman is usually left holding the baby. Im just saying be open minded about the situation and I wish you and your partner all the best in your decision. Pregnancy changes people and you both have to be strong enough and grounded enough to be able to cope with it. Also I think you should try to finish some of your life dreams first such as studying. You can then offer your child more.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 After college. Get your degree first then start the process. I have fallen pregnant and am now having to put uni off for a while.
You and your partner will know the right time for you, but I would say hang on and finish your education first :)
xxxxxxx
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reader, LauraE +, writes (17 July 2007):
There is no ‘right time’ unfortunately. If it were me, I would finish college first, and then think about the next stage in your lives together. You are very young, so there is no desperate rush to get pregnant yet. If you get pregnant before you finish college, you might struggle to devote enough time to your studies. You don’t want to throw away your chances when you have so much time ahead of you.
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reader, Straight Up +, writes (17 July 2007):
 i8 think you should finish your education first children can wait and remeber things and people can change at anytime. so just have the book behind you
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