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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for about two months. I knew it was stupid to even get in a relationship because I'm moving countries in the summer. All along he's had moments where he's just really annoyed me. He never knows when he takes things to far, whenever he hurts me he never apologizes for it and sometimes he just makes the most unattractive faces. On top of that he just has these childish moments where I actually hate him for it. Mid-week last week I decided I couldn't stay with him, I'm making myself miserable being with him. I mean we're at the point where I'm agreeing to sex just to please him and get him to shut up, because he doesn't really take no as an answer. As you are probably aware today is Valentine's day. Also one of my most miserable days in the past year. I want to know an appropriate time length after V-day until I can break it off. His mum's birthday is in late Feb and I was supposed to go to her birthday, but I'm hoping we can end it before then? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): I don't think there is a particular time when it is best to end a relationship. You end it when you feel it is time to end it. And I think that time has certainly come for you!
You sound like such a caring person. You are unhappy in this relationship, yet you are still trying to be mindful of how you break up with this guy. But I think it is time for you to think about YOU now. Just by reading your question, I get the sense that you are very unhappy, and desperate to be out of the relationship. The longer you stay with this guy, the worse you will feel.
If you are worried about upsetting him, try not to be. I'm sure he can take it, as he doesn't sound like a very sensitive person. The point is, you are unhappy. So I think that if you want to finish it with him, do it. Don't wait for the "right" time, because there is no right time. Only what is right for you. So think of yourself now, and start your life as you want it to be. Best of luck. xxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 February 2010):
Just end it.
I split up with my ex on valentines, because I realised we were both sat there feeling nothing pretending to be romantic. It made my mind up.
Just tell him straight. He's really not going to be bothered what day it is. You've said he doesn't care when he hurts you so why are you so worried about softening the blow for him?
Just get it over with.
Good Luck!! xx
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