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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:How do you know when a guy likes you and is interested in you, and when he is just being friendly and nothing more?And when can you assume that the guy is interested and tell him straight away that you aren't interested in him that way without looking conceited?Or is it better to just go with the flow? And if you go with the flow, how do you do it without accidentally leading this person on?Thanks for any input! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Hi there, I hope I can help a little.
If this guy seems to be constantly around you and in your personal space, (tries to be near you less than a couple of feet away) it usually means he is comfortable with you and would like to get closer.
If he does nice things for you, helps you with things and seems well mannered around you.
If he stares at you a lot, but does not seem to stare at other attractive ladies.
If when you are close, he stutters or mumbles his words, this is a good indicator that he is accumulating feelings for you and does not want to mess up.
If he tries to touch you (it may seem accidendtal) but is not usually, he definitely wants to get closer. However, some men are touchy feely in their nature so you must watch what he is like around other ladies.
He will try to be around you a lot, initiate conversation when in a group, but when you are alone together, he may be quiet as if he doesn't know what to say (moments of silence).
If he always stands or sits directly facing you, and keeps his attention on you, even when there are other ladies in the room.
He will bring up things that you previously mentioned about yourself, this shows he has listened and taken it in.
Please note that some men do all of these things to more than one woman,and will go for the one who acccepts all of his advances so do be careful.
Also, some men try to attract the ladies with all of these actions. It is always better, if a guy actually tells you that he is interested and then you really know where you stand with him, it will depend if he is shy, or of course already taken!
If you notice him trying to touch you, be it on your arm, back, waist, etc, and you are not interested, just move away from him. He should eventually get the message that you just see him as a friend.
If you don't want to lead him on, don't make eye contact with him if he stares at you.
If he asks you out and you want to say no, you will just have to say " I'm flattered that you asked, but I'm not looking for dates right now" or something to that effect.
Good luck!
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reader, RIKI93dw  +, writes (21 August 2010):
I have a few suggestions on a what you could do the first is you could be on the look out for any hints that he may be treating you a little better than the others by that I mean if you him and some friends were in a bar or a cafe and he asked you what you want but didn't ask any one else second and this is what a girl did to find out if I like her, she asked me how I feel about her so u could do the same maybe or thirdly just go with the flow as u said in the question but be aware of his and you're actions around eachother if you dnt want to lead him on. I hope these can help
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