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writes:Compared to this girl nobody else I've ever dated or known has mattered. I loved her so much, but I was selfish and broke her heart while I took some time to myself. This devastated her and when I came back she said she didn't love me anymore. She said she loved a new guy, even more than she ever loved me. This broke my heart in two ways, in the obvious 'she doesn't love me, she loves him' way, but also because it seemed to cheapen what we had, I wasn't special to her like she was to me. Eventually they broke up, but there is a new guy who she says she is falling for...which makes what we once had seem even less special, I don't mean to say anything bad about her but she seems to fall in love very easily.Something deep in my heart tells me that I was special to her too though, I mean we talked about marriage and kids, but maybe I'm kidding myself. There was just such an unbelievable connection that I'd never felt before. I loved and still love her more than anything, shes beautiful. I'd tried and tried to win her back but eventually I had to give up, but whenever I give up she ends up contacting me. It bittersweet to be speaking to her again, just spending time with her makes me happier than anything, but when I think about the fact she only sees me as a friend it breaks my heart in two. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): If you broke up with her because you needed some alone time...then it shouldn't be this hard....especially if you came back to her....its obvious that she didn't love you as much as you loved her because she would've waited for you....she was probably heartbroken that you wanted a break....but since you didn't say that you messed with any other girls it sounds like you were very genuine in your breakup....I have been in situation when I had to let my love go..and I was terribly sad...but when he came back he was genuine and assured me that things would be better and that he just wanted to be with me....and I believed him because I had already loved him....im not saying that we went from zero to sixty in a day..it took some time...but now our love is stronger than ever...take another chance and talk to her...tell her how you really feel...and if she stills doesn't want to work things out....I hate to say this but you just have to move on...I know that this is going to be very hard but...you can't waste your time with someone who talks to other guys and claim that she is falling in love with them...and if she is trying to make you jealous by doing this because you hurt her... then that is a very sad attempt..and if she really wants you then she needs to just get on with things and talk to you and try and work things out..instead of wasting time trying to make you feel as hurt as you did her...so just try and talk to her again...but like I said if she doesn't want to move foward then move on to someone who will love you as much as you love them.....and when you are in love of course this girl is going to be better than any girl that you've ever dated...but once you are over her...you will find a better love...I wish you the best in your relationship..and I hope I helped(:
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