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writes:well, i met a boy over the internet, a few months ago, then we started dating, he looked really hot in his pictures and had a great personality, and he only lived a hour away in the same country. so me and my mate went to meet him. he was so diffrent. he looked exactly the same, but his personality was diffrent. we barly spoke, but i still really like him, i dont think he liked me much though, how can i get him back?!
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reader, sammy296 +, writes (16 December 2007):
 look... you shouldnt go for a guy just for his looks. you should go for his personality as well. so... if you didnt like his personality, then forget the looks and forget him.hope this helps:)
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reader, Sweet111 +, writes (16 December 2007):
I did the same when I met up with a girl i met on msn through a friend... we were almost on msn 24/7, there were never quiet periods, when we met however, I got really shy, there were awkward silences, and we didnt hit it off like i hoped we would...and on top of it all i lost my wallet with £300 in :(
Arrange another date, see where it goes :)
You never know, you might click more this time.
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reader, Confusedinthecity84  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 He could've been shy or overwhelmed. The internet is a good place for shy types to express themselves easily, and he could've just "froze" in real life. Don't give up on him yet.
Ask yourself these questions: Was he rude to you and your friend, or was he just reluctant to talk? Did he seem uninterested, or did he seem a little flustered/embarrassed because he couldn't think of something to say? How long did the date last? Did he ever seem to get more comfortable?
If you're still interested in him, try talking to him online again. Then, next time, maybe he can come visit you. You can plan a group date (and even tell him to bring a friend) and an activity that a group of you can do together. Preferably, stay away from a movie or concert because those don't give you a chance to talk. If he's an introvert, having the support of other people to carry him through conversation with you might be helpful. Be friendly and inclusive. It's possible that without the pressure of one-on-one (or almost), he might blossom into the guy you chatted with before.
(That being said, f he doesn't contact you again, or if he was/is rude to you, you need to let him go because you deserve someone better.)
Best of luck!
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (16 December 2007):
 Maybe he was just shy and did not know what to say to you, just because he never said alot does not mean he did not like you. Why don't you arrange another date, go somewhere fun like to a theme park, or to the cinema or something, maybe once you have been out a few times he will become more confident around you.
Good luck x
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