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writes:Well I broke up with my first true love about 2 months ago. I'm still hurting from it, especially because he's in another state and I know we can't get back together. But I'm doing better and trying to move on. Well one of my really close friends wanted me to meet her bf's cousin because she thought he was cute for me, and when I saw his picture online I did think he was cute! So he saw my piture and he told her he thought I was cute too, so we met up one day at a concert. We didn't get to talk much that day because he was with his friends and we didn't really know each other. Just last week his cousin told me to write to him online, so I did. He responded that same day and we continued to write to each other every day for the next 3 days. In the last message I received from him he asked me about my last experiences with sex and alcohol in a very casual way. He also wrote to me about his. Well I'm a virgin and so when I responded I told him so. He read my message but he never responded! I'm so confused..I thought things were going pretty good, it was nice to read his e-mails because he has an awesome humor and made me laugh. But I think that the fact that I'm a virgin freaked him out. I'm only 20 and he's 4 yrs older so he obviously has more experience. Today makes two days since he read my message. I really wanted things with him to turn out good and work out because I know that this is the key to me moving on completely from my ex. Plus this guy seems really nice and funny and I was starting to feel an attraction to him. Do you think my virginity scared him off? What should I do?
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (18 February 2006):
 No I dont think your being a virgin has scared him off, but I do think that being this open in an e-mail is not a good idea, you should keep intimate things a mystery and dont tell him too much too soon.
As what you have told him can not be untold, I suggest you e-mail him again saying that you are worried by his lack of response when you told him you were a virgin, tell him you hope this has not put him off you as you think you could be good friends.
You sound like a lovely lady and he sounds like he would make a good friend for you so try this route first, be friends before being lovers that way you will be certain that he is right for you and that you are over your ex and not on the rebound.
Keep your virginity until you have found a man who makes you feel safe and special, one you trust and love enough to give the one gift you can only give once.
Good luck
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