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writes:I need help. I can cope without a boyfriend for a bit but then when mates start to talk about guys they like i get a bit upset. I look around sometimes and all i see is couples. I know i shouldn't need a boy to be happy and this makes me seem desperate but i cant help it. I havent had a boyfriend in over 2 months now and my last one cheated on me.When i find a guy i like, like i have at the moment. I try to rush things or come on too strong and scare them away. I dont like who I am turning into but no matter how hard i try to focus on other stuff i just cant.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (3 October 2006):
 Instead of focusing on other things why dont you try to keep the focus on the guy but stagger things more? Set yourself a timetable and stick to it, like gaps between texts and between seeing each other. Reward yourself for sticking to the schedule and pace yourself....
The other thing that you need to do is maybe comfront some insecurities you may have and work on them as well as self-confidence issues. Its a bit hard to be more specific without knowing more to be honest...hope that helps..
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (3 October 2006):
Instead of focusing on other things why dont you try to keep the focus on the guy but stagger things more? Set yourself a timetable and stick to it, like gaps between texts and between seeing each other. Reward yourself for sticking to the schedule and pace yourself....
The other thing that you need to do is maybe comfront some insecurities you may have and work on them as well as self-confidence issues. Its a bit hard to be more specific without knowing more to be honest...hope that helps..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): I haven't had a boyfriend in two years. ( don't be so sad! your not missing much!) My ex cheated on me. I punched him in the face and knocked three of his teeth out. He's lucky I didn't own a pair of pinking shears. There's better things in life than boyfriends such as ice-cream and chocolate and then spending three hours in the gym to burn the calories back off.
Anyway here's a solution to your problem. Your probably coming on too strong because you feel that your so lucky to have him. Remind yourself how wonderful you are. Act like a princess and tell yourself how lucky HE is to have YOU. After a while he'll start to think that too. If he does'nt its his loss.
Good luck. Hope this helps
PS. In case of emergency go to plan B which involves ice-cream and chocolate. :o)
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