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writes:Hi everyone, I needed some advice as I am really worried about what I want from life. I have recently discovered that whenever I go away on holiday and return back I always feel really blue and not sure what I want from life. i have discovered that when I am away I love the attention I get from men and love flirting and doing crazy things like riding a motorbike at 2am to see a beautiful town. I have never cheated while I have been away but flirt and chill out with men and go out with everyone. Recently I have been seeing someone and we get along really well but now that I'm back from holiday I almost feel I don't want to see him. I want to live that crazy travelers life, meet new people and just be that youthful crazy person that I am... i am only 24 and am living a robotic life... work, home, gym, sleep and work... I am bored of it and want to meet new people and be excited by life... i think I need some therapy or something to try and understand why I crave the attention from men. Any advice or is this just a phase?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013): Maybe you need a job that lets you travel a lot? Work on a cruise ship for example? Or work for a multinational company that will send you on lots of business trips? Maybe it is not so much the travel you crave but the lack of obligation and responsibility. Being able to wake up and not have to be somewhere or have someone yelling at you for not doing something right. In which case maybe you need to find a way to make your daily life less stressful? If you love your job it doesn't feel like work. So maybe you just need to find a job that you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013): O, my god, I couldn't believe I am reading this. I am in my 40s and I can write word by word what you just wrote about myself. I have bad news for you, it's not just a phase, this is how you are. And this is how I am. I am much older but still especially when I travel I get lots of attention from guys'll ages and go out every nite. I also rode a motorcycle at 3 am once in Italy. I am so happy when I travel, AND I realize that it's somewhat an addiction. I learned how to travel cheaply, and how to organize my travelings very well. I have a chance now to travel 12 weeks out of the year, and every single time I come back I go through , I call it travel sadness. I have the same life as you: work, GYM, home, sleep, work. I also take languages and dancing class once a week, and go out sometimes with friends, but it's the same thing: we go to the same places with the same people. It got so bad with me, that I don't even unpack my suitcase anymore. I like looking at it standing in a corner, ready for me to get up and go. I just came back from 4 weeks of incredible vacation in Europe and just yesterday booked another 5 weeks in San Francisco and Asia. I am leaving in 5 weeks, and that makes me happy even to think about it. The worst time for me is winter, when because of work I can't go anywhere, for 4 months at all. By the end of 4 th month I become really depressed, so that's not good. Though I know It will go away as soon as I start packing again, still it's hard to fight this condition of restlessness. I don't know if I made you feel any better by telling you you are not alone, but this is how it is for some people, many people. Welcome to the team, all I can say.
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