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writes:When I didn't care about this guy, he'd constantly call/email/im me, now when I'm starting to really care and think about him, he's not doing it as much. Do you think this has something to do with the universe. LIke now that I want it, I can't get it, versus when I was going with the flow it was so much easier. Now whenever I'm online I expect it, I HATE that about myself, I know it's because I'm bored and not working at the moment, but how do I go back to the way I was, I've been trying not to think aobut him, but it's really hard :( Should I just turn my computer off? I still have that hope you know, and it's just not going to happen because the way I'm thinking now--I'm not go with the flow anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (26 June 2011):
 But you said you are thinking about him because you are bored and jobless. Thats not true attraction to someone, thats needing attention and someone to give attention to.
Some interests just fade. Thats life. The universe is not against you, he just was not that into you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe world sucks right now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): If we could learn to treat the guys we do want the same way as we treat the guys we don't want the world would be an easier place fo all us girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno, I totally showed interest that's not it. I think the universe is against me b/c now I'm thinking about him
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reader, krit  +, writes (25 June 2011):
 Well you reacted the way any other girl would have done. Too much attention kills attraction. The jerks don't give it to you that easily so you tend to think about them constanly. That guy liked you but failed because of not knowing this basic dating rule. Being too nice sucks always. It's all about finding the Right balance between the good and bad in you.
Sometimes I wish things were other way round but it's the sad truth of normal human behavior of wating and desiring what we can't have.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (25 June 2011):
Maybe he got tired of the chase?
Some guys pursue, pursue, pursue and when it looks like its not going anywhere, give up the chase.
Bored? Find something else besides him to occupy your time. No one should date another person just because they are bored.
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