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*imidy
writes:My gf and I have been going out for seven months and it is a solid relationship. For some time, I have been going down on her but she hasn't gone down on me or had sex. I'm the one who only ever brings up anything about any form of 'sexual relations' but she blatantly avoids the topic (i.e. she changes the topic without a breathe). After bringing up oral/sex many times(without making it sound like I was being forceful) she continuously avoids the topic. Thoroughly fed up with her lack of interest and avoidance I asked her to go down on me one night two weeks ago after I went down on her (to a great amount of pleasure to her) and she paused for ages and then said she has trouble thinking of a guy naked! Two weeks later, still no sign of change. By the way, she is 19 this year. She's a great girl and I'm not keen break up.Well, any suggestions on what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, jimidy +, writes (5 May 2008):
jimidy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSilverandcold, good ideas about affection and reassurance, it has been a big help in strenghtening our relationship.
LonelyTwo, I have a pretty good idea (without a doubt) she has not been raped but, 'I wouldn't put yourself in a position to be rejected' is great advice.
And thanks anonymous male reader, taking the pressure off is a great idea!
In the end, she was also avoiding me a little bit because she said she knew what I wanted but wasn't ready to make that step.
Cheers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Only she knows for sure!
I can speculate and say maybe she was raped. Maybe it is her upbringing or religion, or even she prefers her own body versus a man.
I wouldn't put yourself in a position to be rejected, you will only get mad at her, and this will not help your situation. It sounds like out of frustration, you pressured her to give you head, kind of a demenaing state of mind: not good.
If she won't open up, then all you can do is wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Don't break up over that that's just stupid. Especially if you like her.You obviously haven't had sex then. Don't pressurize it but make your point that you want it bla bla bla reasons why etc. I think it's something you two need to talk about on your own...because I can't really guess what's her personal issue with it.
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