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writes:I am afraid to ask my parents for things and sometimes even a question. When I ask my parents for things they either yell at me or get angry at me. I don't know why. I ask them very nicely, and they just yell at me. Most of the time i'm afraid to talk to my mom, because she gets mad at me. I feel like my parents don't care much for me, and this makes me very sad.I have a feeling that they don't love me. It seems that my parents don't pay much attention to me, and they seem to like my older sister better. I have a feeling that my parents like my sister better because she has clearer skin than me like no acne. I have acne, redness, scaring, and I think thats the reason why they don't look at me while i'm talking to them, and they don't really care about me. This really hurts me. I feel like I should go away, and they probably wouldn't even care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Hey, why don't you get a part time job and start buying Proactiv system for acne? You can get it on ebay for a lot less. I had acne bad and after 2 weeks of fallowing the program, I saw great results. Believe me, that stuff works. At 1st your face will feel sore, and it'll be red but that only lasts a few days. I didn't think anything would work for me, but that really did work. As far as your parents, maybe if you got a job and had your own cash, you wouldn't have to ask them for stuff as much. But I would tell your mom when she snaps at you that you don't deserve to be treated that way and that it really hurts your feelings. Hopefully she'll realize it & change but if not, you may have to start confiding in other people instead. Teachers, work leaders, school counselor, etc. My mom was unavailable to me when I was younger, and she loved my brother a lot more. It's pretty true to this day now & I am an adult. My brother is older than I and he lives with my mom still, and she buys him things, he's dependant on her to take care of him. At least you'll grow independant & strong. Good Luck.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (22 May 2008):
 i had a problem similar to this growing up. as for the parent issue, is there another adult u can talk to about things? for me i went to teachers for advice...i was in special ed so the classes were smaller and i was able to bond easier w/my teachers. for the acne issue, my face was awful! i tried everything!!! it took forever to figure out but for me old fashioned home remedies worked the best. what i do still to this day is at night i smear toothpaste over my face. after it completely dries i wash it off w/a washcloth and water. the toothpaste soaks up the oil and leaves ur face feeling refreshed. do this like once a week or else it causes excess dryness. daily i scrub my face w/just a washcloth and water. if i happen to use soap i break out!!!i hope this helps and if u ever need advice im a great mom and very level headed so just contact me thru here.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (22 May 2008):
I don't think your parents love is dependant on clear skin, although it's clear you have very low self confidence about this so maybe you should go and get some advice about that.
The best way to clear your skin is with a good diet, drink lots of water, exercise which releases lots of happy chemicals which helps, sunlight in small amounts (don't get burned), and make sure you moisturise after washing your face or your skin releases lots of oil to compensate.
You say your parents just yell at you. What do they yell? Really listen to what they are saying and then next time you want to talk to them you can explain the ways you have tried to do what they say.
Do you ever just try and talk to them and ask how their day has been? Do that more and they are more likely to open up to you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, strawberryflower  +, writes (22 May 2008):
It sounds like you are going through a tough time at home, have you asked them why they are reacting like this towards you? Sometimes parents can become ratty if their children are growing up (sounds silly I know) and if you're older siblings have left home and you seem the age where you may be too, they probably don't know how to act as soon you'll be gone too.
I'm sure it isn't because of your skin problem, have you been to the doctors about it because there are tonnes of different medical treatments you can try (I had minor acne and it went away in weeks after seeing the doctor). Good luck, stick with it because in the long run I'm sure they'll appreciate you being with them.
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