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writes:Okay, I'm a 16 year old girl, so there's guy that I've been best friends with since I was 11, never saw him as more than a brother, told him everything... He's helped me through all my relationship problems.... But recently, I've seens him as more, we were at my house one day, and I felt the urge to just learn over and kiss him.... Also when he's drunk he tells me he loves me... But is this just as a friend? What should I do? Should I keep our friendship, or should I make a move..... I'm just afraid, it might not work out, and our friendship could be ruin..... Any advice is much appreciated! Thank you... x
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reader, kenny  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Its a tricky one, because as you say you have known him since you were 11 and you certainly would not want to ruin the good freindship that you both have. Alcohol affects people very diffently, some people get more head strong, aggresive, talkative, and some people it brings out an emotional side to them and they tell people they love them, when they probably woulden't in a sober state. Having said that, when people are tipsy, or indeed had a few drinks alot of truth does emerge. But i would not take it as gospel that he is in love with you, he could just be saying it because he has know you for years and is very comfortable with you. Instead of just making a blatant move on him, i would take things at a snails pace, drop some small hints every now and then, but nothing to strong. keep doing this and over time you should be able to obtain a fair idea of it he like's you in that way. If he dosen't then you can still save face and remain friends, and if he does like you in that way, then all well and good.
I hope it works out well for you. x
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 You always run the risk of losing a friendship when you introduce feelings like this. It comes with the territory. It's better to risk it though if you ask me. Better than wondering what could have been.
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