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writes:I'm 20 years old and have never had a real relationship. I have only dated one guy and it was for a month. (This didnt really count though as he had just broken up with his gf of 3 years, and I was his rebound). I can like a guy for months, but as soon as he shows interest I get scared and push him away.Part of this is because I am a virgin, and I am afraid of the pain I will experience during my first time. (I am very small to the point where getting fingered can hurt). What can I do to fix this? Is there a product out there to help loosen the skin? I am very worried as this is stopping me from puting myself on the market and it's affecting my self esteem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): hey-
oh dear! its a shame you think like this!
well first of all- its great youre a virgin! because guys will respect you more. you havent slept around and youre waiting for the right person which is good!
if its any concelation-i know guys who are still virgins and theyre about 18-20 yrs!
anyways- i reckon you should date a few guys- just because youre going out on a few dates-doesnt mean you have to sleep with them! become friends with guys first- friendships are the basis of great relationships and you can create trust and respect along the way too!
as for the 'youre to small' issue- i reckon you should worry about that when the time comes. i doubt you are too small- bcause think about it- women can push babies out of vaginas-doesnt matter how small they are! but you can always get checked out from a nurse or doctor to put your mind at rest.
youre missin outtt on a lot-because you feel insecure. butttt go out there and have sum fun!
dont feel embarrassed! remember- love is when a guy can accept your flawsss as well as your beauty!
love and *God bless*
friend xx
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