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writes:Ok, virginity question for you all. I'm 17 and freakin out because I haven't lost it yet. I've had 2 proper but relationships but I wasn't with them long enough to go any further than kissing/feeling, one relationship when I was 15 and one when I was 16 so before you say I'm shy or whatever, I'm not.. I just don't seem to be getting a boyfriend anytime soon and now I've been single for over a year and the clock is ticking!!How do I find a guy?? Seriously, it's depressing me how I haven't been truly intimate with a guy yet. Would I be more likely to do it at uni because I think partially the reason is because I go to a posh college where all the guys (and girls) do pretty much focus entirely on education, with a few exceptions where there's a few couples. Please help- I've lost hope!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): Don't rush into losing it. I'm 17 and with a guy I've been with over a year and I love him with all my heart and I lost mine to him, I had many offers before him but I didn't want to and I would have wish I didn't because I would not been able to share that with a guy that I love and not some random guy I've been with for a month or two. Just wait till you find that special guy that you wanna share that with not just anyone cause you wanna lose it. Cause I once thought I'd never lose mine and I'd be the last of my friends but it really don't matter just wait till you find the right guy cause to be honest if you two are not close then your first time could be really weird and not special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): You can probably find someone to take your viriginity in the next half an hour.
Your question is how to find someone that is what you want in that person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): youre 17. stop rushing or it wont mean a thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): You can't be in a hurry to lose it like this...It's so special and it should be saved until you find a guy who really deserves it and who you trust and know respects you like you respect him!The clock is NOT ticking! You're only 17?! Why the rush? If it's because of what your friends are doing, then ignore that, I had the same pressure in school but ignored it, the people that matter don't judge you on being a virgin. That's great that the kids at your school aren't sex crazed. Honestly I've seen so many relationships around me ruined because they were so focused on the physical stuff. It's over rated. I know I don't regret my past, because I wasn't rushing to lose my virginity like you seem to be... Don't get pressured or think you are missing out on so much... Because if you let it happen naturally, and don't act desperate, then you will get happiness. Guys don't go for the desperate girls...
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (18 June 2011):
 Do not be in such a hurry, and this advice from an old foggy who lived though the sex revolution of the 1960s-70s! You are still just a spring chicken, as we say in Texas, and losing your virginity so young will likely prove to be: 1) Disappointing and unrewarding for you, 2) Somewhat painful, 3) A deterrent to serious suitors in the future.
Geez. now I really do sound like some old fuddy-duddy, and yet I was humping every young female in sight back "in my days." But believe me, it probably did not do much for their futures having lost it to some guy just passing through. Clock ticking? At age 16-17? Come on now!!! Even I didn't really get going real good until 19 or 20!
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