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writes:Hello Aunts I have a question for a friend. She recently revealed to me that she is having sex problems with her husband. They have sex for hours but he won't cum. She thinks there is something wrong with her because he can masturbate while watching porn and cum. I asked her if they tried different things like role playing or sex lotions and she said yes they don't work. they have been married for 2 years and this has been going on the whole time. They really would like to start a family but it seems imposible because he can't come. I have never heard of this before and any advice that i could give her would be helpful. I want her to be happy and to stop feeling like she is not good enough for him. She has talked to him about this and he said he has always had this problem and he doesn't know why it happens. They have even tried sex then him masturbating then continuing sex and it will only work if he enters her right at the point of reaching orgasm. she said he stays hard during sex even if it has been for 3 hours but he just won't come unless he masturbates while watching porn. Does anyone know if this is a medical problem or something like that? I don't know how to help my friend and I hate seeing her upset.By the way he is 26 and she is 28 if that helps any
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response. It may have to do with emotions. Im not them so i don't know the whole story only her side. They have been having a lot of problems lately but she said this happened before they got married. He is a solider and was in Iraq for over a year and she thought that he would be able to come when he got back since he hasn't had sex for such a long time. That did not even work when he came home he still was unable to reach orgasm.He is an average sized man about 6'2 and she is a very slender in shape woman about 5'3 she said she he told her that she feel just right down there but he just can't come. I feel bad because this issue is affecting her self-esteem and she is such a nice person.Maybe they need to just reconnect emotionally and it will be better Thanks again for your input and I had never heard of this problem for men so when i see her tomorrow ill tell her this is not very uncommon maybe it will relax her a little.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): I used to be a guy who had the exact same problem...and it was a huge problem. I never thought I would be able to orgasm whilst having sex, till I met my current partner. It could be a number of things... Size? His... and hers. He might be too small, her, too big. Thus not enough friction...if that's the word. Method makes a difference too. My partner now, is very energetic, and trained for years as a dancer, ballet, hip-hop etc. So the rhythm, hip movements helped alot. On his end, if he's a star-fish, that wont help. Finally - emotions do play a part. If he's anxious, which is totally possible given that there is this pressure that he hasn't 'come' yet, that doesn't help. ...just so you know, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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