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writes:i have two kids,a four yr old and a 7 month old child. my boyfriend never wanted to have sex as soon as i got pregnant cause he said it isn't right for the baby and i agreed.Now (7 months after my baby is born) we still dont have sex as he says its not righ0t for the baby because i am still breast feeding and because he saw the baby getting born he is turning himself off. In other words- i am not sexually active with my man as he is turned off at the moment and i believe these are all excuses. In the morning he wakes up and tells me that he watched porn cause its hard for him not to have sex. He says he is not cheating on me but i can't believe him. Is there anything i can do to turn him on? I got my figure back after 2 months of having my child and i always try to look my best to please him. Something is wrong and i need help, i love this man with all my heart and i want this family to work out, but i can't take it anymore, i miss our sex life so much.Thanks for your help and i hope to hear from you soon.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 It doesnt mean that its forever though sweetie, maybe he just needs a little time. I'm sure that if you both still love each other eventually you will overcome the problem. XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): He always returns home from work and he tells me everything that goes on with his life. He was always honest with me and i believe he still is but i am being rejected and that hurts so much. We are still very young and i can't accept the fact that he is off sex already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): This is a common problem but it doesn't have an easy answer. He probably really is freaked out by seeing the birth. I am a strong believer that the man should be in the room but at the shoulders of the woman, NEVER watching. It has a mental affect that can be hard to overcome. I think you have let it go a little to long. Men get used to using porn and the longer it goes on the harder it is for them to stop. You need to be having sex even if he is not totally into it at first. Some time to see things feel just as good as before might be all thats needed. If he won't at all, therapy may be necessary. Do Not continue to ignore it. It will only get worse. Do Not allow porn to steal your sex life with your husband! You deserve for him to take this problem seriously and do what ever it takes to make your marriage happy for the both of you. And most importantly Do Not let this destroy your self confidence!! This isn't about your body or sexiness, its his inability to separate your being a mother and a sexual woman, and getting past the images he has. Birth is not a pretty thing and I can understand why a lot of men have trouble with those images. Tell him you'll give him time as long as he is actively trying to overcome it. BUT, GET RID OF THE PORN HABIT. IT WILL WORK AGAINST EVERYTHING YOU ARE WORKING TOWARD. Good luck!!!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 January 2009):
Honey! It is possible that he is telling the truth. Everyone goes off sex now and again, but its up to you to talk things through. Tell him how hurt you are and that you feel rejected by his actions.
Do you have a reason to think there is anything going on, or is it purely because of the rejection he is showing you?. What I mean is! Is he staying out late at night, or not coming home from work on time...talk to him sweetheart. If you do try, and he still stays the same, try to be patient with him. Until you can get to the bottom of it.
He wouldnt be the first man to go off sex for no reason though, it just happens to us all at times.
Good luck XXX
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reader, helplessgirl08  +, writes (5 January 2009):
ok theres thie book its called 112 thing a bright girl should no in it there is a section on how to turn your man on read it a do what it says it works trust me
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