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writes: Hi! I recently got back with my ex, and the first night we slept together I found black with pink polka dots g-string in his bed! I was a bit put out but thought nothing of it. Then we slept together at my house- no problems! But the next time at his house it was there again! And it didn't seem to be there by chance either. When he was in the shower I noticed it sitting very obviously where his covers were pulled back- as if I was supposed to see it!! It's not just the thought of it there, it's the fact that it seems really manipulative- like he wanted me to see it. The only girl it would belong to is a girl he stayed with recently in Australia, who he might go back to see soon.The annoying thing is that earlier in the night I went to go home (cos i wasnt comfortable that he might be going back to Aussie with this girl soon) and he stopped me leaving and reassured me not to worry! Am I being manipulated? Too much time has passed to confront him about him. We havent slept together since but we see each other a couple of times a week cos he lives with my best friend. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2005): this guy obviously has issues with respecting women. he is disrespecting you by his action and the guy overseas! If a guy had my gstring i wouldnt want him to be leaving it round for other girls to see.
It is a shame that you have to see him often- just maintain your dignity, but you dont have to let him affect you or have ower over you like he is obviously trying to. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2005): It doesn't matter "why" he's doing this. The point is: his actions and behaviours should be clearly telling you, he's being very uncaring and cruel to leave this out for you to see in plain view. Most guys that care & have respect for a woman and her feelings, would either destroy evidence like that or hide it. He is behaving very disrespectfully to you and you should not tolerate this. This says a lot about his character because if he disrespects you now, he will disrespect you 10 years from now-because that is "who" he really is...dump him and move on. His behaviours are a clear indicator that he's a immature cad. I am glad you never questioned him about it and gave this ass the smug satisfaction of seeing you squirm with self-doubts and confusion. He's playing mindgames...he's not worth it and you deserve someone mature, loving and cares only for you. Be strong and and walk away from this guy with your pride intact. He doesn't deserve you. Get out there and live a fun, happy life and be true to yourself. Take care dear.
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