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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I met him in a summer camp but we go to the same school.He's the type who usually flirts with a lot of girls(even physically touching) so it's hard to know when he really likes you or is just friendly.Despite this everyone in the camp thought he liked me and teased him about it.But when accused in public, he denied liking me most of the time.He even told me on the phone that x thinks there's smth romantic between us but we are just friends.I'm also the only girl he kept calling or texting weekly after the camp finished.We also hanged out once.Long story short I bumped one month ago into him when I was with a friend and I was pretty distant.I wasn't very friendly.My words to him usually hinted at "I don't care about you/you don't like me much either/you only want to get info out of me later on".After this he was pretty distant.He didn't really smile at me and just said "hi" at school.No texts or calls.2 weeks later I texted him and he called me hours later after school ball dance practice.We talked 10 min and he wasn't that focused cause he watched smth and he was the one who ended the convo.Next day when he saw me he came to me though for the first time in some time and we talked for a few short minutes.Friday we went to the same birthday party.He sat near me at first and we talked but later moved near a girl who was in his drama club so he could talk better with them.I moved to another table.I saw him often looking at me but he came to me like twice only.A few people apparently thought there was smth between me and a guy friend and asked us if we are together though all we did was talk and at times vo outside the venue.He told me my crush looked at him in the bathroom like they were rivals and he thinks he's crazy after me(but he was drunk so maybe he misinterpreted).When I was dancing with other guys he would often look at me.At midnight when the cake arrived a guy was holding me by my waist and he was near him.I looked at him and he didn't look very nicely at me.He also looked away as soon as I looked at him.I stopped him when he passed by me and asked him if he's alright and he was like "what you haven't seen me like this before?"(when he had that look while we were in camp he usually had smth) and I was a bit drunk and apologized if I treated him coldly weeks ago and he told me "I don't know what you are talking about I didn't notice any weird behavior." and with that he left a few seconds later.Also when he left the party he said nothing to me.He also poked/tickled me once when he came to me.I remember when we met how happy and smiley he was around me.Now it seems like only a memory.Does he really despise me?I want to be close friends with him again but I feel he doesn't react well to my attempts now and I don't want to look like a fool that likes him when I want to be friends again.I don'tunderstand his distant behavior.Why is he distant?Should I try getting close to him?Maybe he thinks I'm weird now that I don't really know his drama club mates that are friends of the girl who had the party or thinks I'm not sociable because I didn't dance enough(when all my night was in fact affected by him and that's the reason).He's 15 I'm 17.I also heard he kissed a girl at a party last week because she hitted on him.Also he was dancing with other girls but me and when he was with them and I was dancing with a guy he often had his eyes on me wether it was a slow dance or not.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 October 2013):
 He likes to take it slow and probably doesn't like being teased by your school mates. It puts him on the spot and makes him embarrassed. He could have feelings for you but he felt the pressure and almost forced into dating you just because the public says so. He's afraid that everything you do together will become news and jokes in the school.
You may feel that because he is social you have to be social too, but attraction doesn't work like that. For a relationship to flourish you need privacy in a low key setting.
You are still learning the different between friends, liking, and romantic relationships. No need to rush into anything. Liking someone doesn't automatically mean you have to date. If he doesn't ask you out just assume there is not enough interest. No need to over think either. He's trying to play it cool. I would also say most boys want girls who are younger because girls mature faster and you are already 2 years older. A 15 year old can pretty much like any girl but he knows that he feels better with a girl he can be the hero with. Like knowing more things about the world and being able to take care of her.
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