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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Its been 3 months since my ex girlfriend and I broke up. She left me for someone else, even though I treated her really well. Sure we had our ups and downs, but it was happiness for the most part. I'm trying to forget about her, but she continues to try to keep in contact with me. I'm trying to keep our contact(txt, calls, myspace messgs) minimal and not rude, but she still hasn't gotten the hint that I don't want to talk to her. What's more, I know that she still checks my page to check up on me. I recently messaged her and called her on all of her actions (looking for me, random txts and calls, the possibility that she's trying to keep me as a backup), she insistently denies, that any of the things she does are nothing more than curiosity, but I know that when I told her all those things, she got upset, also maybe cuz of the fact that I clearly stated that I didn't want to speak with her right now.So I guess my question is, what's up with all her actions? And why would she continue to try to keep in contact with me after she left me? Do you think that my assumptions are correct about her actions?Any help/advice/comments would be appreciated. Thnx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): thanks to everyone for your comments and advice. I really appreciate it.
any other words of advice are welcome.
-Dave
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): She left you. She obviously doesn't care about you. Ignore her. You deserve so much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): actually i dont know which scenario is the closest to my situation. I can only guess, and i have thought of both of those options. However, that is the reason i dont want to speak to her, if she thinks that being my "friend" is some sort of consolation to me, i dont want it. I dont need her pity. If she wants to be my friend to make herself feel better, well then i definitely dont want it! im sorry if it seems a bit harsh on my part, but I really cared about her and she just threw away 2 years of us being together...and for what? Right now i just cant be her friend, because as long as im in my current state, in which i still have feelings for her (regardless of what happend), I wont be able to get over her. The only reason i would talk to her, would be if she had plans to be back with me, but since she doesnt express any interest in that manner, then i simply dont want to talk to her. and the only way i would be "back with her" would be as friends. pretty much start all over, and see if shes changed, so SHE can show me that she really wants me back.
-Dave
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): you seem like you deserve better, this is a heart situation. listen to your heart and your thoughts and no one else, because no one else knows the whole story, or the exact way you feel, excpet you. therefore; you have to listen to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Well, if she broke up with you for someone then she is either (scenario a) seeing that the grass ain't greener on the other side and wants you back, or (scenario b) feeling guilty for leaving you for someone else and is trying to keep in touch to try to make sure you are ok, hence making herself feel better. It's probably one or the other - you will probably know which is the more likely.
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