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writes:To give you a background I dated my ex for 5 years lived with him for 2 ended up not working out so i moved in with my grandma who is very traditional when it comes to dating and living with someone before marriage...(did not think it was appropriate by no means) so i moved in with her this past may 2010 when we split up and I have the most absolute wonderful boyfriend now i stay with him so much already that it wouldn't be a surprise if i moved in with him. He has been asking for the past 2 months now and every time i bring up the subject to my grandma she disagrees doesn't think i should says not appropriate. Is there anyway I can explain that I want to move in with him and easy way??? I love my grandma so much and i don't want to loose her shes my best friend. I can not keep living with her forever Im 23 and time to start my life? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): In the end, it's your happiness and not hers that matters here.She may be quite traditional, but you are not. You want to move somewhere, then move.You cannot spend your life just obeying every command because you don't want to hurt someone. I think your gran would rather you be happy, even if it goes against her strict code, then live a life of misery because of fear.Flynn 24
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 If you'ree looking for someone to validate your wish to live with some dude before marriage then I'll defer to others. As far as having to "live with gran forever' I feel your pain. wr built on a room to our house for my grandmother to live with us. BIG mistake for us. but I think she felt good about it. Oh well I digress. I iknow and suspect she knows the living with gran thing is not a permanent thing. I see two chouces but remember I'm also old and traditional. 1) wait for gran to pass on or 2) break her heart and move in with some guy before you get married. Wait...there's possibly a third...Talk it over with her slowly and calmly over a bottle of her favorite wine.
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