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writes:What's the meaning of a break, time, space,? Does that mean its over? my girl asked me for time to find herself and see if she can let go of the past and reallu for give me for cheating and lying, but yet we live together and she still wants me in her life after she moves out.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Hi,
Depends:
If the relationship is fairly new, don't know each other well, it could be a way to politely end...
If you are together for a while, know each other well, have history. Means, she's hurt, angry, and need time alone. I think this is your case, because she said, she still loves you. Just give her time to cool off. Call or send her a message. Tell her you are really sorry for your actions, and behavior. Tell her you still love her, that you want to work on your relationship and be together. That you are willing to give her space, because you respect her, and understand. So you'll wait. That she can come to you anytime, whenever she's ready to talk, you'll always be there for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): To me, taking a break from a relationship can mean any of several things:1. Your partner really wants to stay in the relationship with you but is just too overwhelmed or upset to be able to do anything that won't counterproductive. So they need breathing space from you. This means it's not over, just a much needed temporary rest.2. Your partner is unsure of whether they want to stay with you or not. So the break is for you both (or just them?) to test-drive what it's like to be single again, but while still retaining the right to get back with you if they decide they dont' want to be alone. Under these conditions, a break may be the beginning of the end. 3. Your partner has decided that they don't really want to be with you, but at the same time they want or need to be in a relationship (maybe because they're afraid of being alone). So the break is to satisfy both of their needs: to be able to tell themselves and others that yes they are in a relationship. But they don't actually enjoy being around you anymore. This kind of a break means it's over once the other person finally finds someone new to replace you with, or when they develop the guts to just end things with you formally.4. Your partner has been really angered and hurt by you, to the point that being around you is too painful for them. But they don't want to break up for real either, maybe because they're afraid of being alone or losing something else that the relationship provides. So the break is for them to lick their wounds. This kind of break may or may not be the end. If you've really hurt your partner so much that she can't stand being around you, then being apart from each other will only be productive temporarily, eventually you have to work things out for real not just avoid one another forever.
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reader, malonso +, writes (20 November 2011):
malonso is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank YOu for your answers. She said that she hopes we get back together but at her own pace. I find myself confused because we still live together. I don't know how to act around her. She calls me everyday, but she's mean to me. I asked her to make time to talk because I can't go on with this and she said I have to hold off until tomorrow because she has a dinner party stonight. And that I always choose the wrong time to talk. That she doesn't want to be a jerk but she couldn't have people hear her conversation over the phone so she was going to hang up. She said she still loves me but when I act this way and I erasure her she thinks twice about us because I push her away. Thank you.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (20 November 2011):
i think its means she done with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): What it means is that she is very hurt by the fact you cheated on her, and that although she cares for you she needs time to get past the hurt and figure out if she can continue a relationship with someone who cheated on her (you). Give her some time and space, there is no guarantee that she will forgive you, but she is trying. Even if the relationship does continue after the break it will take a long time for her to be able to trust you again. If you still really want to be with her, it's going to have to be a situation where you wait and see. If she does come back to you, Don't cheat on her again, because if you do it probably won't be a break, but a goodbye. Good Luck.
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