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writes:I don't understand what the big deal about race is. I've been in an interracial relationship for nearly 3 years and my fiances family and friends seem to focus a lot on me being white. His family is latino and were born in mexico and his friends are mostly african american and latino. I don't feel like a trophy or anything and I don't feel different than them so why do they make such a big deal of it? Its not negative but they point it out a great deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): The fact is we are different-we have different backgrounds,beliefs, and cultures. That doesn't mean that treating you differently is justified, it just means its expected. They are curious not necessarily about your color, but the background and view point that comes with it. Unfortunately, for most people, this curiosity some times blinds people from seeing what's really important and that's love. Evidently, you're fiance sees past the color of your skin and focuses on the content of your character-you can ask him to tell his friends and family to do e same.
PS. Congrats on your engagement!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): There is only 1 race. The human race! What is colour when we all bleed the same. Still, certain people will always walk around with hate in their hearts. Its those individuals with the problem. Credit to you for simply loving someone for who they are.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 September 2009):
 Hi,
racism rears its ugly head in all forms. People seem to forget that racism affects all races and is not just limited to the traditional racism we are used to in modern western countries - where it is predominatly anti-immigrant.
Not much you can really do I'm afraid as people will always seek out differences in others and comment on them. But hats off to you for being totally oblivious to it...you set an example others should follow.
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