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writes:I have a been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He hates his current job and he has been trying to either find a better one or get into the master's program of his dreams. He has been feeling really down on himself because he has been receiving rejection letter after rejection letter from all the jobs he applies to. I have tried to be as supportive as possible. Even though I am still finishing up my undergraduate degree, I am always willing to drop everything and be there for him because I would want the same if the roles were reversed.The other day, he called me and told me that I don't care about him and his problems. Of course, this really hurt me. Instead of getting angry and emotional, I tried to ask him what more can I do. He just said that I need to care more. I kept trying to probe him for specifics but he just got angrier and angrier and we ended up yelling and cussing at each other and until he finally hung up on me. I don't get it. For the entire day we were fine. Heck, before this, we hadn't even had a real fight in months. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, he's so pissed off at me. What's his deal? Reply to this Question
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 It sounds to me like he is going through abit of a rough patch if hes getting rejection letter after letter he must feel really bummed out and feel like he isn't getting anywhere even if he is putting 110% into it. He ovbiously has no right to take it out on you especially if you have been trying to support him throughout this whole process but as the famous saying goes "you always end up hurting the ones you love the most, the ones you should never hurt at all." I suspect you should tell him that your giving to him as much effort time and care as you can and you do honestly want to support him all the way, ask him if theres anything he is unhappy with and you feel hurt he has said that you don't care enough. If there is any sign of a blazing arguement remove yourself from the situation and let him sort his issues out in his own time.
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