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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:A 40 year old married woman, let’s say her name is Mrs J went to her friends Mrs M house for bday get to gather after playing bingo w/ the girls. The people who was suppose to be at Mrs M house was Mrs J, Mrs M, Mrs L(single). The bday girl’s guy friend (just started talking, nothing serious) name Mr P possibly was going to stop by briefly.Time passed.The 3 girls are at the house drinking (not drunk) and Mrs M guy friend name Mr P came over w/ 2 other guys, Mr J and Mr R. They knew Mr P may stop by but not anyone else. Mr J begin talking to Mrs L as she said she was single and Mrs J said she was married.Mrs M and Mr P decided to go out and grab some food and for some reason they were gone for awhile over an hour as they ran errands.So at the house at this point in the living room was Mrs L, Mr J , Mr R and Mrs J. Mrs M 10 year old daughter was in her room.Mr R knowing Mrs J is married tried to pursue her by telling her she is beautiful over and over. Mr R asked Mrs J do you want to go upstairs, offering her drinks in which she said no. Mr J told Mr R she’s married and have respect. At that time Mrs J and Mrs L wanted to leave but couldn’t because didn’t want to leave 2 guys that they didn’t know in the house with Mrs M daughter.An hour later, Mrs M and Mr P came home and Mrs J said I have to go home so Mrs L’ and Mrs J left.Mrs J told husband everything and she wasn’t happy at all as if she knew that guys were coming over she would have left with Mrs L. Mrs J didn’t drive her car but ride with Mrs LWhat should have Mrs J done in this situation or what would you have done?Her husband told Mrs J she should have called him and he would have came to got her.Mrs J said yes I could have called even though you said you were going to sleep but I would have left 2 strange guys who have been drinking with her friend Mrs L and Mrs M Daughter by herself.Mrs j did call Mrs M the next day to express her displeasure about the situation.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (29 November 2023):
 I'm guessing you are Mr. J and you want to know what, if anything, your wife should have done differently.
I second Honeypie's answer. I would not have left a child on her own with 2 strange men. Nor do I think I would have asked them to leave as that would create tension and possibility provoke a confrontation which increases the danger.
I might be loathe to call my husband as he would likely provoke a confrontation as well. If you're angry enough to think about this then write in to us, it's no stretch to think you would come across as aggressive if she had called you.
I she did the best thing given the circumstances, she remained calm, bided her time and waited for her idiot friend to return.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2023): I think Mrs M is way out of line and potentially placed both friends and her daughter in danger. She behaved appallingly and I too would be furious. How dare she leave 2 women and her 10 yr old in a house with 2 strange men? Her parenting alone should be brought to question here let alone what could have happened to her friends. Mrs L and Mrs J don't know them, they could have been rapists or anything!The only thing I would have done differently is asked the 2 men to leave as soon as Mrs M decided to go out. Mrs L and Mrs J have every right to expect to feel safe and Mrs M should be made to take responsibility here.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 November 2023):
 Uh tough one. Well, not really.
While I get Mr. J's sentiment of *you should have called I would come get you* - I get why she stayed when there was a 10-year-old girl in the house. At least until the mother got back, once SHE was back, I would have taken a taxi/Uber or called my hubby to get a ride home.
I think she did the right thing. Imagine if she and the other woman had left and something happened to the kid?!
Also, Mrs. M is so out of line thinking it's OK to just leave with her BF without making sure everyone (that being her two female friends) were OK with it. Even if they are all adults she acted like a total twat.
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