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writes:Hello, everyone.I need some advice. Like what would you do, if you liked someone but someone else liked you.I am not sure because the dude that likes me, has liked since the eighth grade(I am in the eleventh grade now) and he still likes me and he says he wants to be with me and stuff like that. He's very sweet and adorable and lovable(You know the type) The type you just wanna hug like "awww," and he makes my day every time he feels that I'm sad.He's one of my very good friends.But I like this other guy, however, I don't know if he likes me back. And it honestly seems likes the better choice would be the guy that likes me becauseThe guy that I like is just really difficultIm the kind of girl that always falls for the 'difficult' kinds of guysThe guys that don't talk, who are shy, kind of dark, serious, etc etc etcand I'm a glutton for punishment at this point because my friends tell me that even though the guy I like is shy, if you get to know him he can be sneaky and kind of mean, like not mean mean, more like in a petty kind of way.Example: If you ask him to do a small favor he'll smile and refuse. Like if anything, he just plays too much. Even though he's really shy and super quiet. And I'm afraid now because I don't wanna like him and get hurt by himSo, yeah I probably should go with the guy that likes meBut even then, I am a complicated person and I don't wanna end up hurting him. And I don't wanna get hurt. Not saying if I went out with him, that 'd cheat. I'd never do that, I just don't wanna go out with the guy that likes me just because it's the right thing to do and just because I don't wanna hurt him you know?What would you guys do?
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reader, katiekate +, writes (12 August 2012):
 I have been in your shoes many, many times! What I can say, from experience, is to not write off the "nice" guys. They are the ones who will treat you great and make you feel like the most beautiful, most special girl in the world. They are the guys who you can feel secure with and you usually don't have to worry about them straying or cheating. They are the guys who make great husbands and fathers. You are young now, so there is no need to jump into any sort of serious commitment, but if I knew at your age what I know now (at age 30), I probably would've given some of the "nice" guys more of a chance.
I would stay as far away as possible from guys like guy #2. He sounds like a jerk, to be quite honest. Asking him to do a small favor, then he smiles and refuses? That type of personality is very frustrating and difficult to deal with. TRUST ME- I have been there! That personality type will likely NEVER change, and you will always feel unfulfilled, wondering why he won't do this, why he won't do that, why can't he just be nice and sweet to you, etc.
All of that being said, do not feel like you are tied down to either one of these options. You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you! You should be with someone who you are head over heels for, a guy who treats you like a queen, someone who you can have a complete, fulfilling, loving relationship with. Don't sell yourself short by being with a guy you aren't really that into (guy #1) or with a guy who you have to chase and always wonder what he's thinking (guy #2). There are literally millions of guys out there. I suggest waiting for one who has the whole package. Good luck, and enjoy dating! I wish I was 17 again!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2012): Honestly I would stay single and not go out with either of them. There is nothing wrong with being single, you don't NEED to have a boyfriend, it's definitely not the end of the world if you don't have one. There is no point in being in a relationship with someone if you don't really want to be with in a relationship with that particular person, and there is no point in being in a relationship with someone if your going to be scared that he is going to hurt you. Just relax, enjoy being single, spend time with friends, focus on your schoolwork and when the right boy comes along who you want to be with, who won't play games with you and who you can have a good healthy relationship with. Good Luck
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