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male
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anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for about two and half month now. Earlier this week we have found out she is pregnant. We have become really close and are happy with it. Two days ago we had a bad argument which resulted in me taking her home but neither us were happy about the break up. I am really confused on what to think now. Its all because I was texting my ex in revenge because I thought she was up to something on social sites like facebook and blackberrys bbm. She seen the texts to my ex. After I took her home she messaged me on facebook three times but I ignored her I haven't heard anything since. What do I do? I'm too stubborn to text her but if she texts me again I will say how I feel but I'm too stubborn to text her first. Will she even keep the baby? will she even contact me again? Shes 17 I'm 20
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 March 2013):
 You're adult enough to have sex and impregnate a young lady who is not even of legal age.
You need to be adult enough now to man up and call her and say... hey we barely know each other but we have to figure out what to do about this baby NOW.
IF she wants an abortion time of of the essence.
IF she wants to carry the baby to term (regardless of if she is keeping it or giving it up for adoption) she needs to start prenatal care ASAP and her parents must be told.
YOU need to stop being a stubborn child (you sound like a toddler having a temper tantrum) and CALL HER and behave like an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2013): Get a grip and man up!
Texting your ex in revenge? Erm your about to be a father and hurting the mother if your expectant baby because " you think she was up to stuff on social networking sites"
Come on now, txt her and tell her how you feel!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 March 2013):
 Let me grab your brain for a second.
The child. The baby. Your son or daughter.
All the other stuff is immature stupid high school crap. You're about to be a father, yet your mind is on "revenge contact" with an ex? Really??? You're playing with an ex, using her and not being serious because a fight you had with the mother of your child got you upset?
Yes, in the USA, you could be in trouble for statutory rape for sure, since the legal age of consent here is 18. So get your head out of the stupid child games and onto what matters, which is your child.
You got a girl pregnant. That brings in mega massive hormones, and since she is 17, she doesn't have the maturity to deal with it. You also lack maturity, so it was a perfect storm of stupidity that led to the argument. So stop playing ego games and go see her. Seriously? She messages you, and you ignore her. GET YOUR HEAD out of your ass! You are going to be a father. She is the mother of your child, so grow up.
Either way, if you don't want to end up screwing up your life in case someone clues her into the fact that you're 20 and can spend 10 years in jail for impregnating a minor, you better RUN over there and immediately make it right with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2013): Dear Cupid,
I am pregnant with this guy's kid. I'm not sure if we're boyfriend or not as it's only been 10 weeks. He can be really great....but sometimes we argue and we can't resolve our issues. He's still attached to his ex and monitoring her on websites. And he's ignoring me.
What should I do? Should I keep this baby?
Honestly, what would you say to someone in this position? If you can't be bothered to communicate with her, why do you care what she does with the her pregnancy?
What will happen next? Anything could happen. She might come back groveling to you. She might abort the pregnancy and never speak to you again. But if you're hoping for a certain future, you have to make a commitment and devote yourself to it.
Right now, you seem to have a very limited attention span.
Good luck.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2013): You messed up. How can you text you ex after finding out that your girlfriend is pregnant? I am not judging you but try to imagine what it will do to her... It's like you are letting her down even before she is a quarter of the way through her pregnancy. It really is not fair to her.
Plus you are wondering if she will keep the baby. Well guess what? It is your baby too. And you also get to have a say in whether you want to have the baby or not.
I think you should message her to apologize for what you did (texting your ex) and then you two sit like adults and talk about the pregnancy.
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