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writes:okay this is a long shot and i don't know what's gonna happen but please i need help.So yea, my and my ex have been going out for 3 years and we broke up for 4 months and went back out and during the time we were going out we came across the topic about if we ever broke up again we should be friends with benefits and we both agreed on it. Now after 2 months of going out we broke up again. And now the recovery after the break up seems easier than the first time, but obviously i still have some feelings. So after 2 weeks of not talking to her, i contacted her to tell her we should hang out (obv to bring up the topic again) she agreed to see me, but what bothered me was that she was drunk and told me she was hanging/partying with people like every night and it bothered me and i dont understand why?? im going to see her real soon to ask her to be friends with benefits, but can someone give me the consequences and the outcome of what will happen if I do become friends with benefit with my ex??
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (10 August 2011):
 The outcome? More than likely youll be the one attaching emotion to the situation of friends with benefits. You risk getting back together with her. Most american women, in my opinion, are only good for sex... but cmon man, more fish in the sea. Bang some other brod lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): As long as you only enjoy the benefits without wanting her back, it's fine. I found that sex often is much better with exes than during the time they were your girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): I always believe it's a huge, huge mistake to have friends with benefits with an ex. I mean it could possibly work out, but very rarely. It is a VERY bad idea friends with benefits if you still have feelings for her, because believe me, you will most likely get hurt, and if she feels the opposite about you, you'll be the one feeling hurt at the end of the day, not her.
I just don't see how it can ever work out doing it with an ex, especially when you've been in a long term relationship. There 's always someone who still has feelings for the other person, and gets hurt. Or, if you both have feelings for one another, it could bring the two of you together again.
It looks to me though you should leave this girl alone, for a little bit at least. You've had 3 shots of being together and it hasn't worked out. From my advice I'd say either give it one last go at having a relationship, or completely stop seeing her.
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