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writes:I met a man on a site I was networking on. We began talking on the phone and we seemed to hit it off. I am a single mom of two and I have a life. I noticed this man started being demanding and rude. He got angry with me because he assumed that we were going to meet on a certain day. I had never agreed to what he was talking about. He started giving me attitudes because I wasn't calling him every day. I got tired and just told him about himself. His excuse was that he was really starting to like me. That makes no sense to me.....being rude and inconsiderate and demanding to someone you like? Anyway, he waits a couple of days and sends me a text wanting to know if he culd see me that night. I said no. I haven't heard from him since and that's a good thing. But my question is this: what is behind this behavior? Oh, he also blamed his behavior on being sexually frustrated.
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reader, A_Faylene_Mandie_Marie +, writes (17 August 2009):
 Don't take it any further, Take his attitude and actions very seriously, sever all ties with this man NOW because those are all red flags for a future-abusive relationship. Don't do that to yourself, and even more importantly don't do that to your children. I am not talking to you out of the feeling I get by reading your post, I'm talking to you because I know from experiences with being in a 3yr long abusive relationship. If he's sexually frustrated let him find someone else to take it out on, I mean if he's that demanding and degrading towards you now, who knows what the future holds. Be careful please!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 Your post reads like a 'model answer' for everything that is wrong about internet dating...if the man has issues now, he would be a nightmare in real-life. Being used for sex is just half of the worry...with his control issues I would be surprised if you got away from him at all without him turning into super stalker. Please don't meet him because he sounds like a nut-case.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (17 August 2009):
 always remember that we cant really tell who it is we are dealing with on the other end of a computer screen. People will tell you how wonderful you are, or lie to you and tell you they are single, when in fact they have 4 kids and 8 girlfriends!The bad thing about any type of online relationship is that one party or the other can get very unrealistic expectations about the other person. That is the problem with living in internet air.I myself learned this lesson a couple of years ago. So I would suggest that you date people in your town or immediate area that you can see, feel, and talk to face to face.This guy sounds like he is a very needful thing. And needful things like that are usually things top run screaming from.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 August 2009):
 He sounds more like a 5 year old boy who was told NO. I would STAY the heck away, there are too many red flags in your short post.
He is demanding (and you two barely know each other)
He is trying to control you.
You didn't jump headfirst into bed with him, I bet that hurt his ego.
No wonder he is still single.. He is socialy inept.
And yeah, that was a booty call in case you were wondering.
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