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writes: please can someone help. Today at work I winessed another member of staff lose their temper and pull a little girls arm because the girl said something about her daughter apparently, the children are yr 3's anyways I had other things to do as in I had the girls younger sister who was in tears beacuse someone opened the toilet door when she was using it she is yr 1 sorry but you may need to see the bigger picture. Now I had a lot of different children coming to see me with their problems and I went to lunch at 2 and the assistant head teacher came to see me at 3pm to ask if what the children was saying was true I tld her I saw everything and she said I should hve reported the TA I tried to explain I had other things going on and that I was not gonna not say something once things in the school calmed down. She made me feel guilty that I did not mention it to someone but what I dont understand is that she then told me all she said to the TA was she cannot take sides when things involve her child she needed to have passed it to someone else to deal with. But then she tells she she will leave it until next week for the headteacher to deal with. Alot of children saw the girls mum and told on the TA and she is very angry. But again I think me having to say yes she did do it and it was wrong is making me feel guilty although I know it is the right thing to do.I am right aren't I?
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 January 2008):
I think you did right. Speaking with the head teacher, and the other lady, here is the issue they face. This is someone elses child, someone who they have full responsibility for and liability if something happens.
I could see them saying "was she really going to tell or is she just saying that because we asked."
Stick to the facts. The incident happened, then it was over. You had issues going on at the time, which were presently happening, Once the incident happend, it's no longer a current issue, so you were simply taking care of the current and then going to discuss the issue which was a past threat.
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reader, Yos +, writes (26 January 2008):
It sounds like you did the best you could do. With lots of kids running around things are hectic. Like you said 'you had other things going on'. In situations like that you have to make a quick decision and then get on with your day.
With all the emotions going on: an upset TA, upset parents and kids, and an assistant head teacher who wishes she didn't have to deal with this, its no wonder you're wondering if you could have handled it differently. You did fine. It'll all blow over soon and then the fuss will be about a kid sticking chewing gum in another kids hair or something like that.
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