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writes:Hiya, been on a few dates with a guy and we made out pretty passionately on the last date and he got hard. I don't want to do anything literally below the belt as we haven't been going out that long. Should I just ignore it, ask him about it, tell him how sexy it is? Cuz it does kinda turn me on, even if I don't want to do anything about it... I.e. *NO HJs and no BJs*Also, we have fun, but there are some of his kissing techniques that turn me off. How to approach him about it without hurting his feelings?He's a really nice guy and I don't want to hurt him or do anything to make him run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): it is completely normal for a guy to get turned on from kissing and get an erection. It is embarrasing for him probably, but just talk it out with him you are not up for going below the belt (yet), but just try to not be bothered by it.
it is a reflex of the body he has zero control over it, in fact that he gets an erection from just kissing you means he is greatly attracted to you. You should be flattered by it.
If you are understanding for his erection and tell him it is fine, and he is understanding for your choice to not want more than kissing and hugging atm, then ur relationship will probably only grow stronger.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 well its normal that he is going to get an erection its just him getting turned on.
Just sit down with him and have a talk. Explain to him that you get turned on as well when you are kissing and that you do really like him but you want to wait for a while before you do anything sexually. Just tell him that you want to get to know him more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): If you're not ready to have sex yet then dont. If he mentions why you havent done anything yet, then just explain that you're not ready. And, if he does pressure you to have sex, then hes not worth it. You shouldnt tell him that you think his erection is sexy because then he will think that you want to have sex, when you really dont want to. You shouldnt just ignore it, you should ask him about it and explain to him that you're not ready. He should respect you and should be glad that you want to wait until you know him better instead of just giving it up after the first few dates.
You shouldnt say anything about the kissing. If this is the first time that you two are kissing each other, then he could have just been nervous and he will get better.
I wish you the very best of luck. :]
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 You could just ignore his erection. He knows it's there and probably knows that you know it's there. It's natural that it should happen if he's turned on, as long as he's not expecting you to do anything you don't want to do then hey all is well :)
As for the kissing... my ex-boyfriend was initially, err, not so great. He used to use way too much tongue, and often opened his mouth too wide and would leave a "saliva ring." Yeh, I know, gross. Anyway, luckily for me, his kissing technique improved after a month or so, and I loved kissing him :) If you don't think the guy you're seeing is going to get better by himself, have a look at this link: http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-a-Bad-Kisser .It's a great guide on how to tactfully handle a bad kisser. Good luck.
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