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writes:Two years back I fell in love with a girl (though I was married to another). She too was madly in love with me despite knowing my status. We felt we were born only for each other. Due to my circumstances we were not able to get married. We took a painful decision to split. During our last days, we would cry every day missing each other. After she went back to her native place, we both were unable to cope with each other's absence. Then decided to minimize the pain I reduced my talk with her. I knew it was the only way she can get back to her real life. It was painful to me too. But I assured myself that she should get married with some good guy and live happily. That's enough for me, I thought. After some more painful months, she recovered from the loss of love. Very recently she got married. She did not inform me initially. Only after the marriage she told. I was/am very happy she is getting settled after all the torment of lost love.But suddenly I feel very hurt. I miss her very much. I can't in anyway better her life considering my marital status. I understand that. Still the pain is unbearable. She speaks to me once in a while. She soothes me, consoles me to get back to my real life. Though knowing that things are in better shape, I miss her very much. What should I do? How could I cope with that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): I feel your pain.I am dealing with the same thing.My married lover left town and not tell me.Not sure What he was thinking !!!!.I hate not having closure. Good luck. Its gonna take some time to heal.I hope you are able to move on soon...
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Stop living in la-la land and focus on the wife and family you got.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 You should start thinking about your poor wife and start concentrate on making it up to her for cheatin on her, wine and dine her, make her feel loved and concentrate on working hard on getting your marriage back on track you are not the victim here your wife is. Leave this other woman alone now she has found a man that could commit to her so accept that and give your wife the attention she needs.
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