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writes:My bf and I are moving in soon, but their is one big issue between us. During our time we've dated until now recently, he was the one who drove all the time to pick and drop me up at my home. I don't have my own car. I rely on my mother to allow me borrow me her's when she can. He knew all of this beforehand, and he still wanted to go out, because I suppose he assumed that I would just take her car and drive there at times. And yeah maybe I could have, but when the other person lives 2 hrs away (there and back) its kind of hard to take a car thats not even your own, as it was in my situation. I've apologized to him countless times when he came to me and told me how he felt and I also told him I appreciated everything he had done for me and that once we move in together we wouldnt have that issue. Because we'd be living together and he wouldnt have to drive to pick me up, and since now I have a better job I could help him out financilly by paying utilities and food and even having my own car which I do now.Yes, I do understand a relationship is 50/50, and both people should put in the work. But at the time, I didnt have a good job, or a car and was living with an overbearing mother. My issue here is that even though I've told him I'll help him out, he still thinks its okay to mention things in the past like how he was the one driving back and forth. Is it right for him, to keep bringing the past and should we move in together like that or should he stop repeating old rubbish?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (27 November 2015):
 Maybe acknowledge that it must of been frustrating for him to have to travel so much however the circumstances were a bit out of your control, unlike him being able to control what comes out his mouth. Be honest and ask what it is that he is hoping to gain by bringing it up all the time because if it is not brought out in the open once and for all, continuing to do so will just cause you to be resentful which is not a good start to what should be a happy time living together.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (27 November 2015):
Why does he continue to bring up the past? Did he ever tell you why is feels the need to mention it?
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