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writes: I have had my best friend for 7 years and she was with her ex fiance for 4 of those years. About 3 months ago he broke up with her and she is looking after their two children. I am friends with them both and I know for sure that she is not over him but after getting drunk a few weekends ago I slept with him. It was great and he wants to get together again when he comes back. I know if she finds out that she will hate me forever, but recently I found out that she also is attracted to me. Help, I dont know what to do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): Gah?
Alright well, I still stand by do not touch alcohol when there is a man nearby as with most cases I have read on this site; you will do something stupid which will only bring heartache.
How could you just happen to be drinking with him and then screw him? You must have lusted after him for awhile.
That isn't what a friend would do.
Okay...now.
You know that she still loves him. In cases like these, the man did the walking and for selfish reasons. What a loser. What kind of idiot walks out on his common law/wife and children?
You need to tell him to bugger off. I sure hope you didn't put the moves on him and thus that is what prompted him to leave her.
You need to tell her. And you need to stay away from him.
Does the GF have a good support group like family is around, reliable, trustworthy friends?
It is unfortunate that another Loser can sucker two women to love and want him. What is this world coming to?
Can you seriously be happy with knowing you are a cause to the breakup of their family? That those two children will no longer have Daddy around in the proper and right sense? In the home by Mommy's side?
Get the GF and her children into some sort of local, church therapy as they are usually low cost or no cost. Help her find a way to get strong and have support.
Tell her when she has gone to classes at least 8 times. In the meantime stay the hell away from her man.
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reader, emma H +, writes (2 September 2006):
What a difficult situation to be in! however, I do feel that you have betrayed your friend of 7 years by sleeping with her ex boyfriend. She is probably in a mess at the moment and I think that what she really needs is a shoulder to cry on. If I were you I'd steer clear of the boyfriend and try to be there for your friend. If you feel an overwhelming desire to be with her ex then stop seeing your friend. Honesty always is the best policy so why not tell her about your fling with her ex.
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