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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid aunt on my question dated 9th may 2011,(What should my role be in his life) suggested me to leave the saint after getting the required lesson from him. But i am still much confused. He is not a saint.And his family life is ruiined on the way of treating me.As a very normal human being his desires raise and he wants to share them with me,if not with his spouse.And i find difficult,infact impossible to get rid of that. Very true that i never wished for any undue relationship but i failed in stopping him from dragging towards such things because i could not selfishly leave him. I undergo the feeling of obligation.Though we hardly can ever meet now ,but over phone,we meet and maintain the unreasonable relation also.Both of us meet over phone but keeping due care of not harming each other's family at any cost.I love my family but can't stop giving him the physical faminine pleasures.Over phone he caress me, coddles me, cuddles me and also kisses me here and there(Only that he keeps his promise of not going to 'that extent'), advises me,(.If we ever meet, he would do all this ,i know. But when i love and care my family utmost,then why i find satisfaction in satisfying him ?.When i exactly dont love him for any physical reasons, then why any distance from him or any dispute between us hurts us ? Why i find my life meaningless without him? Why his presence is a must ? Though we have no complaints of being at different station and thus apart but a kind of satisfaction is there that we are together and are there for each other's help (keeping families protected).Why he s necessary for my life? Why i feel myself shielded and covered with a huge tree? Why would i feeel helpless if he is not there? Is it so called LOVE? No, idont love him that way,but still i do all that and agree to , why ?I am also not cheap. Then why i feel satisfaction in his satisfaction ,although,i also know that he is not a 100% my choise of love man...still i'm ready , why ? Pl. tell.What is this? Is it really so called true love ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): It sounds like how most relationships start out with -- kind of an obsession, thinking someone is so wonderful and that you need him or her.
If you having a relationship with this man even has a tiny possibility of hurting either of your families, you need to break it off. It's selfish to continue.
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