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writes:There's a girl from Norway on my course, let's call her Emily, that I've adored for some time now. I've seen her go through a rocky relationship with someone in this time, its difficult to see her unhappy.I've been spending more time talking to her around university recently and it amazes me how infectious her personality is with me. But I'm struggling to let her know I care for her, I'm very shy. She more than likely knows I have feelings for her as its been so long.So I bought her a christmas card, a beautiful hand made one because I know she's particularly fond of crafty things. I will see her on Wednesday, at her flat for Christmas dinner with some friends, before she flies home for the holidays and I'd really like to give it to her then.I'm not sure what to write as I don't want to come on too strong, but at the same time I'm aware that quite a few other guys have been saying 'she's absolutely gorgeous' etc. so I feel as though it needs to be known that my feelings arent solely based on her looks, in fact hardly at all. I want to know how to give it to her without coming across creepy or weird, I know she's been having a tough time recently with our course and life in general so I feel like I need to let her know I care.Any ideas on how I could give it to her or what to write would be greatly appreciated, thank you and Merry Christmas to all!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 December 2014):
 Good for you! Merry Christmas!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wrote a fairly simple message wishing her a good Christmas but not declaring my feelings, I didn't want to come off as cheesy! Quite conveniently I walked her home after a group of us went to a bar after their Christmas dinner. It was great to chat to her and I have her the card when I said goodbye. I actually hugged her for the first time which was great!
She messaged me the next day saying 'thank you so much, that's very sweet of you :)' so it went down well. I'm happy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf it wasn't obvious, she is now very much single. Thanks for the advice so far!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 December 2014):
You could use any of these quotes:
http://www.quotegarden.com/christmas.html
Because they are NOT too personal, but can still show you care. I don't think declarations of feelings should be in a Christmas card.
You could also write your greeting in Norwegian:
God Jul og Godt Nyttår (means Merry Christmas and a happy new Year)
And you can ALWAYS add a line that says, I'll look forward to seeing after the holidays.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2014): Um I would keep it simple and light... because although the relationship is rocky she STILL HAS A BOYFRIEND so you can't give a blatant come on!Dear Norwegian girl,I value our friendship and I hope that this card makes you smileMerry ChristmasLove,BLAH BLAH
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