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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Girlfriend already wants me to meet all her family members (uncles, aunts, cousins, grand parents, etc)?We're dating for only 3 months and she wants me to drive 150 miles to a small town with her to meet the rest of her family. I don't want to go right now, it's too early! What should I tell her?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 April 2017):
 You:
Am sorry but am just not ready to meet all your family. It is still very new to me our relationship and it is a bit overwhelming for me travelling so far away and out off my comfort zone at the moment, do you mind if I wait until I am more comfortable and we have been together longer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2017): 3 months = 12 weeks. That is not very long. Some people are ready to meet the family after that long, others are not.
Talk to her. Tell her that, although you would like to meet her family, you feel that now is too soon. Once you've been together for 9 months to a year then the relationship is moving into long term serious and then is the time to meet the family.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 April 2017):
 So, if I've done the math right, that would be about a three hour long drive?
You've dated 3 months already. If you're not interested in her enough by this stage, that you can't be bothered to drive for three hours, and don't want to meet her family... I seriously wonder if you're in this relationship for the right reasons. You're clearly not in love. Which is OK, I guess, if you've talked about how the relationship needs to progress slowly because you don't develop feelings easily etc.
So, have the talk. But normally, by 3 months, people tend to be over the moon for each other and willing to drive to the end of the earth and back... Maybe you just don't like her enough? Which is fair, but in this case be honest with her. Tell her that you aren't there yet and that this isn't the kind of relationship you want/are able to be in. Her expectations of a relationship are very different than yours.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 April 2017):
 Be honest?
Just tell her that you like where the relationship is going and getting to know her but meeting her family is too soon for you.
Also talk about a timeline for WHEN you DO think meeting them would be OK.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2017): 3 months too early? No it's not
If i was dating you, i would dump you
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