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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Finally, I met a wonderful girl. We were both in the same place doing an internship this past summer. She quickly became one of the best friends I've ever had, and we did everything together over the summer. The problem was, she was in a (long-distance) relationship with someone else. Two weeks or so after we met, I asked her out, and she said no she was with someone, but would to keep being friends. Which turned out to be great, except the whole time I was wanting more out of it, if you know what I mean. People always assumed we were dating because we were together so much. Our relationship became a bit strained at times when we were drunk, when she would get a bit touchy, and one time we kissed. I tried to convice her to break up with her boyfriend, but we just stayed "friends".Since the summer's been over, we've been talking A LOT, via email, phone, and often skype. And we talked about everything. She told me all of her problems with her boyfriend, then about a month ago broke up with him. That made me a bit happy, but I wish she had done it over the summer! I'm kinda busy with school, and our frequent and long phone conversations were interfering with my life. As time passed I realized my chances of being in a relationship with her were decreasing, even though we were still talking a lot. We are far from each other, and both busy. Our conversations strained my time as well as my phone bill. It didn't make too much sense to be talking with her so much, and I got tired of feeling like she was just playing with me. So I told her that she had to stop calling me so much. It was hard for me, because it was almost like breaking up, although we never had a "relationship". She was a bit sad, but said she understood. She sent me an email, saying she was sorry she was being a nuisance, but still wanted to stay good friends. I never responded.Three days later, she called me up and told me she was about to buy tickets to come visit me over winter break, and wanted to ask if it was ok. I was shocked, but said yes. So, she's coming in 8 weeks. Essentially, I'm pretty sure this is going to flourish into a full relationship. (at least I hope!) But, what should I expect during her visit? It would TOTALLY be worth it to be in a long distance relationship with her. We've even been discussing the possibility of living in the same city after we both graduate in May. But at the same time, I don't want to blow it and spoil our friendship.
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