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*iruka
writes:I live in Singapore, it's different from the U.S where I think most of the users are. We are just, not so open.. I'm 17 and I really like this girl. It's my first time liking a girl so much. I met her in school. She said I was different and interesting. I confessed to her after 1month or so after we met/went out once. Now we text everyday. But it get worse everyday, she says we have nothing to talk about, everytime talking only about relationship stuff, the same thing over and over. She finds me pushy sometimes when I complain why she always go out with other guys alone and not me. She does not want to go out with me or even talk to me on the phone now. I'm really heartbroken when she send me '...I will never go out with you FOR SURE'. Really very heartbroken. Despite everyone telling me to give up, I do not want to. I really like her even though there is almost no hope for me. What should I do to make her notice me again? (there is alot of details I missed out but this is the rough idea)
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Hi there, I think I have read your question correctly. You have an interest in a girl, you dated once, and the relationship since then has consisted of texts and phone calls? She goes out with other boys and makes sure you know this? And now she tells you that she will never go out with you again?
Right, is she your age? 16-17? She may be very immature for a teenaged girl and many of that sort like to have lots of boys clamoring for her attention. She doesn't have any intention of actually making one her boyfriend, she just likes the idea of being admired and having the power to make a boy cry.
I think you have to remove that power from her by removing her hold over you. I mean that you let her know that you don't care if she isn't ever going to date you. You have to seem more interested in other things, activities and also other girls than in her. She's merely an afterthought, someone you might consider talking to after you are done with a busy day, but certainly not at the top of your list. You act indifferent toward her, and you make sure she knows that you are much more interested (and therefore interestING) in other things.
Sport, intellectual achievements, prowess at a 'manly' sport or art--these are things that would set you apart from the pack of admirers she is trying so hard to accumulate. You want to be the standout, the one who cannot be charmed or sweettalked or flirted with into saying or doing too many romantic things.
So stop texting her, don't reply to her texts right away, and stop asking her out. Mention the other dates you are contemplating, hopefully will have and the interesting bands you are going to see or whatever it is that your set finds 'cool'.
Good luck and let us know how you get on!
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reader, soccerlover1000 +, writes (22 June 2010):
 omg i am so sorry i know a girl should never do that no matter what contury your in. i think that you shoulld still be friends and you should try to make your friendship a little more but jusst take it slow. you sound like a really nice guy so i think she will fall for you again sometime soon.i hope i could have helped you and good luck!SOCCERLOVER1000
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