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writes:When I was young (16 and upwards) people started teasing me for being 'thick', family members as well. They would roll their eyes and look at each other if I said anything or didnt understand something maybe. I even got a reputation for being 'thick'. It was really nasty. They used to say 'shes got no brain' or 'Oh my god shes such a bimbo!'. A few years later I got into a very good university and did a degree in English Lit, ever since then they stopped saying it, but I still cant shake the feeling of being somehow less than everyone else. What should I do to build confidence again?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 November 2010):
First thing, frame your degree and put it on the wall. Then maybe make an appointment to see a counsellor to talk about how you feel. This kind of feeling doesn't go away without a lot of work, usually with someone else there who can help. As for anyone else, refer them to the degree on the wall. And every time you feel down, sit down and look at your degree. You're clearly smarter than they are. Only an idiot would underestimate someone and call them thick.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Its hard when so many people put a person down, it damages that person, and people just dont realise how cruel there comments really are its so sad.
But what you need to remember is that you have proved each and every one of those people wrong you went on and got a degree, most people go through there life without achieving this so be proud of yourself you proved those bullies wrong and now you are the one that is having the last laugh.
I know that it can be hard to convince yourself that you are a good and bright person but the only way you are going to start believing it is if you start telling yourself it, i know it sounds crazy but it does help, when you get up in the morning look at yourself in the mirror and repeat to yourself that you have achieved a lot in life and that you are well educated, you are bright and beautiful and those people only put you down because they had issues of there own and instead of sorting there issues they chose to hurt you. Repeat every morning that you are smart person and a good person and you deserve happiness.
Some good confidence tips would be to go out and find something you are good at, doing this on its own instantly will make you feel good about yourself, also joining groups and classes can make you feel good meeting new people and making new friends is always good. Goodluck with the future.
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